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writes:Since i have been at uni i have been really good friends with this girl. For the past 3 months she has been really flirty with me, hugging me every chance she can, sleeping in my bed etc which i really liked. I knew she liked me but i never acted on it because i was taken and i feel like i neglected her a bit. Anyway the second term when i was single i realized how much i liked her. But suddenly she started acting weird with me like we wee strangers and when i talked to her about it she had decided she didn't fancy me anymore. Basically she had been flirty with me all the time because she was unsure how she felt and didn't want to lose me. I don't care about being with her but i just want her to go back to being cuddly and comfortable around me as she is one of my best friends. I just think she doesn't want to lead me on but its horrible to see her cuddling all my other friends when it used to be me. How do i get things back to how they were?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2009): do what your heart pleases. maybe go out to dinner with her and try to talk about it.
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reader, cloudysunshine +, writes (6 April 2009):
I don't think you should make her jealous just try and act normally, it's prob hard for her because when she liked you, you weren't available, and now you are she's changed...my friend acted the same, when he couldn't have me, that's when he wanted me...he expects us to be the same, but I explained that he hurt me, he apologized and we moved on. I think you should just be there for her, and not push things to be any particular way, just let them be what they are for now. I do believe if somethings meant to be, it will happen, but if you just stop texting her or playing games she won't respect you, Just be a good friend and hopefully things will get back to normal with time, that's what i'm hoping for with my situation:)
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reader, treble13 +, writes (6 April 2009):
treble13 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe already spoke about it and she said she didnt feel the same way and just wanted to be friends. I've said i just want things to go back to normal but currently they are still wierd. How should i act around her? I have to see her every day and i dont want to have another talk with her incase it just messes everything up again. Should i just avoid texting her for a while or make her jealous or something?
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reader, cloudysunshine +, writes (6 April 2009):
Hi :) I've been in a similar situation, I'm a girl aged 21 and av been best friends with a guy from uni for two years. I had a bf for five years, but my friend was always in the back of my mind, we were always cuddling, and laughing and started to feel stronger for him. I ended things with my boyfriend as we grew apart, and partly because I had these feelings for my friend. However, he was still in a relationship which I didn't want to ruin, so I didn't tell him how I felt. However, he told me he had always liked me and wanted to be with me. He sort of finished with his gf but then got back with her. He completely led me on, and his excuse seems to be that he's not good enough for me. We are friends now, but I'm really hurt by how he acted and my trust for him is gone. Basically I think you two should have a talk and decide whether it's worth risking your friendship :)
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