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36-40,
anonymous
writes:told my husband his incessant flirting with a coworker (all 3 of us work together) was going to stop, he admitted he crossed some lines because flirting makes him feel better about himself. word got to her that she needed to stop, and she admitted she felt lonely because she was getting divorced at the same time we were getting married and now we only speak to her at work as we would an other aquaintance. Problem is, i still resent both of them for their behavior and while i put and end to this nonsense before anything really happened, i still feel like I should never have to have dealt with it to begin with. How do I get rid of that resentment and move on from this, and why is it that a man needs more that just a devoted wife to boost his ego, but that he has to go out and find someone on the side too?I work with him as a second job in the evenings to supplement my day job. With such limited availability i can't find work anywhere else in this tiny little town we live in (trust me I've tried). I'm stuck there for now, and in a way, i want to keep working there to keep and eye on this kind of thing
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (13 April 2008):
You chased her off and she admitted she was wrong and apologised. You won.
Two thing you can do though....
1. Spice things up with your husband, wear pretty lipstick when you go into work, brush past him in a sexy way.
I'm guessing that he is technically your boss when you go and work with him.... how sexy is that? Call him sir and give him sexy looks. Flirt and make him realise how madly he is in love with you, make sure you are the only woman he will look at again.
He may have started flirting because he feels like you two are past that stage now and he misses the fun. Make sure you are the most fun girl in the room. Do all the things that you did when you first started going out together.
2. Get any sexy single men you know into the shop and introduce them to the girl your husband flirted with. If you can give her a confidence boost then she'll have no problem looking past the guys she sees at work every day to find herself the new man of her dreams.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2008): wow i think you dealt with this in such a mature way i would have made a complete fool of myself. I would also still be bitter about this, they both crossed the line. I guess if she left it would make things easier but seeing her must be a constant reminder. Nevermind being lonely she was very very wrong. I know this is not an answer but i do wish you well, i really do.
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