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writes:I would like to ask for the opinions of the aunts and uncles here about a man I am becoming very fond of who works in my neighborhood. We work in totally different places but met a few months back and have become quite friendly. I feel a strong connection to him mentally, emotionally, and physically too, and my gut instinct tells me he feels the same but maybe it's only that I want to believe that. He stops by to see me at least a few times a week and we have had many great times together, but one thing worries me -- whenever we start talking on a deep personal level and he offers me a big compliment, he always seems to start acting a bit nervous while he says it - you know, looking downward, shuffling items on the desk top, etc. At first I thought it was maybe the usual butterflies you get when you're getting attracted to someone new, but let me add this detail. This man is a law enforcement officer, and the more I get to thinking about it, I feel like no man in that line of work would be nervous about getting to know a woman. Do you think his nervous habits when saying compliments to me are signs that he's just lying? I should add that the only time he appears nervous is when he is opening up about his thoughts about me. I know this sounds like an odd question, but I keep over-analyzing this situation and would love your opinions. Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (13 April 2008):
 He is nervous. You are analyzing him so he has a lot to be nervous about. It isn't easy for most men to hand out compliments and actually his nervousness may be a sure sign of sincerity.
I 2nd Emily, give him a chance.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (12 April 2008):
Why would he say you were pretty and lie about it? Why not just keep you as a friend?
I think it is more likely he is just nervous.
You say he's a policeman? So he's a big, rough, tough, alpha male. Men like that have no problem dealing with mad knife maniacs - but getting turned down by a girl they like could really hurt them.
No wonder he's nervous - he's not comfortable showing weakness and putting himself in a position where he has to admit he has a soft sweet side.
You have found someone who could be amazing, could be love the love of your life!! He's giving you compliments.
GET ON WITH IT AND GET TOGETHER!!! Stop checking out every bit of body language he has and being so scared - that's probably what's making him nervous.
Good Luck!! xx
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