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writes:I've been though a lot this summer with my father. He has told me that unless I am willing to be around my step mother he will not see me. And I am not allowed to be around her because she emotionally abused me, I won't get into details. What I need to know is how can I get over begging for my fathers approval and his affection. Its just causing me more pain. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2009): That's really hard for you!! It's not fair of him to put you in that situation. You've done nothing wrong so you shouldn't feel bad about it! I think some people don't know how to relate to their kids. It's not your problem, it's his. He really should make time for you without his wife. My Dad was a lot like this as I was growing up and I'm only now, in my 20s, realising that it was his problem, he didn't know how to reach out to me or take action to spend time with me, so it just didn't happen. It doesn't mean he doesn't care about you, I'm sure he does, he just has no clue what to do about this problem. I think you could tell him how much it's hurting you, suggest meeting him somewhere every weekend for an afternoon, like a park or something, or failing that say you'd like to talk to him on the phone once a week.
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reader, kahlan  +, writes (17 August 2009):
 Oh Darlin!Do you get on with the rest of your family?That must be so painful that your dad is treating you this way.Do you have a granda,Uncle or older brother that you get on with and can talk to?I am sorry your dad is acting this way.Please dnt beg for his approval and affection.He doesnt deserve you.Your step mum has no right to emtionally abuse you.I take it your dad knows abut this.Is your mum still around or a relative who your dad would listen to.If there is could you ask them to give it one more try-explaining that you are frightened of your step mum.If this isnt possible or he wont listen to reason,im afraid you will need to give up n him.It sounds like he is trying to blackmail you into doing what he wants.It will be hard and hurtful.If you need to talk again write anytime.Kahlan.X.
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