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writes:Please help me with this irrational workplace fear!? I have accrued a lot of vacation time at work (3-5wks) and my boss says I must take it in the next 6-7 months,(I have no choice in the matter, pressure is being out on her from management to get her staff to take leave) the time is split up.. I am on a budget so I cannot go away and I plan to do things around my city and maybe take short trips in my state, relax etc This is stupid (but please no hate!) I am afraid that the people at work will forget about me, and my boss may even give away my job..I work in a hospital and my job is secure, Ive no reason to think I'll be fired in my leave! Im an ok worker and noone is out to get me, this fear is totally irrational! my job wont be given away, Im an Ok worker, I do my job and get along with most people.. and have been there for years. but.. I worry that my colleagues will forget me, we get along as a team but Im not "buddies" out of work with them, (some of them are cliquey at times.) When Im at work we all say hi and bye to each other,do work talk, and make small talk, occasional conversation, we are an OK team. I know all of them, and I always say hi and make small talk, and conversation when appropriate, though Im quieter. I make the effort to say hi/talkSome people do socailise and I am afraid that.. when I come back to work they wont care that Im there at all, some, not all.. will "clique" away and virtually ignore me. I don't expect tem to ask after my holiday (only 1or 2 have before) but I don't want them to forget I exist! They will all be working together and I'll miss out on the work bonding.... I don't know why I feel like this and have this fear of being forgotten and losing my job, its stupid!.We are all entitled to vacation but this amount of leave is stressing me out, again I have a very strict budget and struggle at times, so taking a trip is out of the question.) Please how can I get over this fear, please help! please don't comment nastily on how much leave I have, its built up over the years, its not my choice!! and again I have little money so cant travel.. thanks
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (12 January 2015):
 3 to 5 weeks of leave is not so much, but I can understand management's desire to make sure staff don't accrue too much leave, there are issues of leave loading, rosters, and other admin requirements that make it more desirable for staff to take leave regularly.
I know of somebody who, for understandable reasons, didn't like taking leave, but we worked on it slowly and just before Christmas she took three weeks in one lump, a huge step for her.
Talk to your HR person, maybe split the leave into two or three manageable lumps, starting with two weeks off to do the touristy thing around your town or city, then after about six weeks take another week off, fit it in with a big spring clean or other time consuming task, (cleaning the oven erk), and then after another 6 weeks at work, take your final two weeks off, and plan to do something interesting.
Blocks of 6 weeks between leave will be long enough to keep you firmly entrenched in the minds of your work mates, and two weeks leave is short enough that there wont be any need for your employers to find a temp, your colleagues should be able to pick up the extra workload for such a short period of time, and you do a catchup when you return.
As a side note, I currently have about 5 weeks owning, and double that in sick leave ........ don't forget every day you are at work more leave accrues.
PS. I know you are on a budget, but if you ask HR what your leave loading amount could be based on 2 weeks leave, you might be able to go away for a few days, mid week and off school holidays season is the time to pick up some good bargains.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (12 January 2015):
 If those are your fears don't take off for long periods of time, take a week here and week there.
Make plans for home improvements (like painting some walls or sewing curtains) or whatever hobbies you may have and ENJOY sleeping in a few days.
They won't forget you or give your job away.
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