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*ul1993
writes:Hey(: i'd like to tell you of an ongoing issue i have with one of my boyfriends ex's. She's a true cow, a real evil piece of work and whats more, shes the mother of my boyfriends 3 year old daughter. He's taken her to court, he's tried reasoning with her even his mum has taken this girl to court. She lied to the judge and My boyfriend and his mother has been denied access to see the baby. Obviously something has happended. I know that she cheated on him and treated him badly which led to arguements and eventually the break up. I feel genuinely sick when i look at her, i find myself looking at her myspace often and the other day her and her new boyfriend drove past us and she waved, and laughed at my boyfriend. The hatred i have for her is unbearable. My boyfriend is trying to get on with life. But i just cant get over my hate for this girl. So i guess the question in hand is, how do i get over this issue??
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reader, SailAway  +, writes (16 May 2011):
 this nasty piece of work is baiting you and you have to stop caring about it. She's evil. Accept it. She wants to get a reaction. Gee there are so many nasty women in the world. Is it something in the water?
Spend all your energy on pouring all you love and care into your guy and your relationship with. Be the stable one, it will be such a nice change for your guy.
The more your guy falls more and more attentive and loving to you the more it will enrage this nasty ex. Her face will get uglier with hate. Getting all worked up and resentful and jealous of you will be very bad for her looks.
While your serene approach will keep you looking younger. That will enrage her more when you look better and fitter than her.
You have her ex and he loves you. Her new boy friend will soon realise what a loser she is. She will probably try to make out you are mean to her daughter. More lies.
Next time turn your back on this woman. Make out she is invisible. Look right through her with no reaction on your face. She will hate being ignored. And she will look like the fool if you do not react.
Practise walking past her like she is a total non person, as if you did not and cannot see her.
This woman is trash. But don't even say anything to her. If she blocks your walk walk around her with bored disinterest in everything she does.
Never argue with her. She is nothing to you. Treat her as the nobody she is. She is trash.
If your guy felt better about all this then so would you. So suggest something to help him. Your guy probably feels so cut up att missing his child. Get your guy to start a giant cork board in the garage. Pin up something he would like to share with his child if he could. One day his daughter will see the big cork board covered in lots of photos of outings and things he wanted to share with his daughter. Even pin up unposted letters in envelopes addressed to his daughter. Then one day she will see he really cared all along.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (16 May 2011):
 They don't call jealousy the green eyed monster for nothing. You are causing yourself all this grief and until you get a handle on it you will continue to make yourself miserable. Remember this cow is his EX and you are now his girlfriend. Do what your boyfriend is trying to do, get on with your life.
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (16 May 2011):
You say you hate her. Why? It sounds like you could be jealous of her? There is no point to hating her. Your boyfriend is trying getting on with his life.. so why don't you? The best thing you can do is be strong and emotionally together for your boyfriend, instead of adding to his hassles by making him have to deal with an irrationally angry girlfriend. Being angry in the way you are helps nobody, especially not your boyfriend.
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