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writes:I feel so guilty and weird all the time!!! I left my (first) long term boyfriend for another guy. Basically although I knew my ex loved me and we had a great time together, I just didn't love him anymore, and I think it was cos he was naturally not very sensitive/romantic, and also had commitment issues. I met someone else while we were going out, and I had SUCH strong feelings for him and he made me realise all the things I was missing in my relationship. I split up with my ex and started dating this guy. It came as such a shock to him, he was absolutely devestated and tried so hard to get me back (didn't know there was someone else at this point..) 6 weeks after breaking up with my ex I told him I was seeing someone new, I didn't want to do it so soon but had to because we share lots of friends and I wanted to start introducting them to my new guy. He knew I knew this guy while we were going out, and of course didnt take it well at all and said some hurtful things. He believes I cheated even though I didn't and generally thinks i'm a heartless b****. Now 3 months later, I am still with my new boyfriend and its going well...However I can't seem to 'get over' my ex in the sense that I hate how much he hates me. I hate how he is talking to all our friends about the horrible things I did and I feel like they are all judging me. We share a lot of the same friends you see....even though we both moved out of town so at least we don't have to bump into each other. I feel so guilty for leaving him for another guy cos I am always such a nice person and I have never been the 'baddie' before. I know I should just get over it... But its plaguing my thoughts and I dont know how... And I even feel guilty about feeling guilty, cos its not fair on my new bf! Argh!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2013): Oh, some thing very similar happened to me to ! amost exactly the same. You have to stop answering his calls, his emails etc... for a long time. So He can get over you. Let him know you are doing this for boths hapinness, so he can meet some one new and you can enjoy your new relathionship. Altought you care so much for him, and share good memories, the healthy way to go is to evoid any contact for a while. Then u can still be friends, but after a long long time. Trust me, is the best you can do! Good luck with that
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