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writes:okay. so i have this crush on a boy in my school. and i know he doesn't feel the same way about me. but i can't stop thinking about him. and i always bump into him during school. and it makes it so much harder. the worst part is i have a boyfriend and when i'm with him im thinking of my crush. i dont know what to do it's like i want him. or i want to stop thinking about him and get over it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2009): I've had similar issues, and I don't think it's anything to get too upset over. Maybe it's more about the type of person you are. Maybe it's because you're unhappy with your current boyfriend? Maybe it's just a little crush. It's perfectly natural to have a crush.
I once had a crush on a girl. I never did tell my girlfriend. I'd walk with this girl, talk with her, I found her to be stimulating conversation. This of course came around the time when my relationship with my girlfriend was starting to cool down. I was left confused and frightened that I may do something I'd regret.
At the end of the day you have to distinguish between a crush and a love interest. Crushes fade, and usually fade quickly. A love interest on the other hand tends to linger. If it's a love interest, don't be scared to pursue it. Never take the safe road simply because it's safe.
At the end of the day, when all's said and done, if you choose your interest over your boyfriend and that doesn't work out, don't regret it. If your relationship with your boyfriend was actually going to pan out you wouldn't have left him, and just because this new boy could leave you or reject your feelings is no reason to fear it. Don't get tied down, you're too young for it.
You've got so much ahead of you. You need to love, and lose, and cry, and love again. It's not supposed to be concrete. Love's an ever changing organism.
Maybe I'm wrong. Maybe I'm off my rocker. It's really up to you to decide.
Good luck!
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reader, Mysti76 +, writes (1 November 2009):
The crush is not such a terrible thing to deal with in fact crushes are kinda good for you..sure it can hurt when you see him with someone else ect. but love at a distance also gives you strength,hope,daydreams and that warm fuzzy feeling when your eyes meet without all the expectations and heartbreak of an actual relationship. I personally think crushes are healthy..mostly. If you HAVE to get him out of your head you are gonna need a distraction.
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