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writes: What is the best and quickest way to get over someone and move on as if that person never existed, and block them out?How do you get over an ex that you loved more than they loved you?
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reader, maxsteel86  +, writes (14 June 2006):
 Well if you really want to get this person out of your head, guess you could get rid off all the stuff that reminds you of them.
Then just fill in your day with interesting things when you're not working. Be sure to hang out with friends, talking about things other than your ex will help keep your mind of them.
Around 2-3 weeks later, if things went well, you'd be able to get back into regular stuff without it hurting too much
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2006): 1) Time.
2) Adjust your routine and fill that up with more meaningful things.
3) Reflect on yourself and seek out the things you wish to do and try to do them.
4) Take all the things that means somethings between you and your ex, and hide them inside a box, seal it with duct tape, and shove it in a place where you won't be able to see it for awhile.
5) When you start thinking about her again, tell yourself mentally to shut the f up and think about something nasty like your best friend farting in your face and eating eggs at the same time, etc.
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reader, Smiler +, writes (14 June 2006):
 Hey Babe
I'm sorry that you are sad right now :o( If i were you i would just give myself a little time to get over her. Then take up new challenges, and new interests. If she has moved that means you can to. Has she found someone else? and if so, will can to. Give yourself time to get over her, but the best way is to get out there and meet new people. We all deal with things differently an the saying is that time does heal and babe i have to say in most cases thats very true. You have to in the end accept that you two were just not meant to be. Put your focus into something else, a new hobby maybe, and eventually you'll forget her and your feelings will fade. It wont be overnight as i say it will take time, but it will become easier, i promise you that. Find yourself, find what makes you the person that you are and then be open to finding somebody new! Get out there and enjoy life, you don't need her to do that! We only get one shot! Grab it with both hands!!
I hope my advice was able to help you babe :o) if you ever need a chat or just a friend to talk to i'm always here for you ok, I wopuld love to hear from you again find out how things are going so don't hesitate to email me ok... Keep Smiling :o)
You Take Care X
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reader, sibaan +, writes (14 June 2006):
 if you trully love this person then you actually should not give up because your heart will never sit easy if you just try the 'ill forget about them, they never exsisted'
think about it there may just be another way....
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reader, Hopeful +, writes (14 June 2006):
 Unfortunately when it comes to getting over people there are no instant solutions, no real quick fixes but there are some ways that can assist you.
(1) keep busy - don't allow yourself to dwell on it all the time, keep yourself busy with work, friends, family, hobbies.
(2) take up something new - as you will have more time to yourself, I would suggest taking up a new hobby, sport or class to keep yourself busy and also to meet some new people and spice up your routine.
(3) get rid of things that remind you of her - I think its important to get rid things that make you upset - if she has left any of her stuff for example at your place - probably best to get rid of it.
(4) make a list of all the problems that occurred in the relationship and all the things you weren't happy with. This will stop you from remembering the relationship through rose coloured glasses and remind you that it ended for a reason and hopefully a good reason.
(5) get rid of her contact details if you think you are tempted to contact her when you are feeling sad or alone. If its too much of a temptation to SMS her late at night, delete the number to avoid the temptation.
Unfortunately, you will never be able to completely get them out of your head. Exes tend to sorta stay with you but you can certainly fade them out and get over them.
It will take time, and make sure you do allow yourself some time to grieve for the end of the relationship but by the same token, try not to dwell.
Get out there and mix up your routine, keep yourself busy and do something new and this should help you move on.
Good luck
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