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writes: I was with my bfriend for 2 years and we had a baby, when my baby was 4 months old he got up and left. We have been seperated for 6 months now but obviously i still have to see him and it still hurts so much, he has a girlfriend who he lives with and i hate it. I miss him so much and feel like i'll never get over him, my little boy is now nearly one and although i have a great family who are always willing to look after him if i want to go out i just feel like i'll never meet anybody else. I just want him back or to be able to get over him, please help!!!
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reader, ladyvee1  +, writes (26 June 2010):
hey, its not easy , trust me, but when you start to think to your self that this man left me, on his own terms just keep telling your self you deserve better im 21 and my baby's father didnt treat me well and he wanted to leave me every day, until one day i told him to get out, yes its hard every day, its wierd being alone but i rather for this short period of time feel hurt, then to wake up at 40 years old and say to my self where did my life go|??? if i stayed with sumone that didnt want to be with me , i promise u , you will be fine. keep your head up and stay poitive
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2009): girl u do not need him .do what u have to do for u and that baby . get your self right u do not need a boyfriend right now it going to be ok
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (22 June 2006):
 This is all about your self confidence and nothing to do with your ex. Basically you had a baby with a man who left you just a few months after you delivered his child - regardless of how he is as a father, that makes him a lousy partner. It also means that you shouldn't want him back...as he might leave you again if that happened. You also shouldn't feel jealous about his new girlfriend as he may well end up doing exactly the same thing to her. Basically you have a beautiful child, and you should be thankful that this man left you because he doesn't deserve you at all. YOu really must concentrate on the lovely stuff in your life now like your baby and your family rather than focus on the negative aspects. Maybe you need to be single for a while to get over what has happened. Don't feel you won't meet a partner in the future as you will when you are in the right frame of mind to deal with another relationship. Give yourself some time to get over what has happened, try to develop your self confidence and distract yourself from your ex (Go out of an evening and let your family do some babysitting, pamper yourself at the nail clinic...whatever takes your fancy).
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reader, auntie claire +, writes (22 June 2006):
 dear reader, i have been in this situation before and it is hard i know, also it's not easy to just stop loving someone especialy when you have their child but you must move on from this, i had 2 children when i found the partner i'm with now and have been very happen for 6 years now it does happen and it will for you too. one thing i did learn is that if you look for love you won't find it i stopped looking after a year on my own and then a few weeks later i found my "mr right".
you have to to be strong and positive and belive it or not you will find someone in the most unlikly place and probably not your normal type.
don't give up hope you know you've lost your ex but you will always have something between you "your son" he has clearly moved on and it is doing you no favours holding on to the past you've come this far, you can do it
i wish you all the best
keep your chin up xxx
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