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writes:My best friend and I have been friends for 16 years. We grew up together. We never needed guys because we had each other. Now she has a boyfriend that i hate. I honestly don't know exactly what I hate about him, but I can't stand hearing his name from anyone! I refuse to hang out with them because they always make out in front of me. She really likes him. She lost her virginity last weekend so now I feel really left out. What can I do? She knows that I don't like him and it's literally causing me problems. We never fight and we have had multiple arguements abouth him. Am I just a jealous bitch? Is there something wrong with me? Help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2007): I have to say how familiar this sounds. I too had a friend that was the world to me, were would do anything for each other and spent all our spare time together. Then she got a boyfriend and at her 18th birthday I got our song played for us to dance to as we usually did when it was on - this was a gesture of how much I still loved her even though she had a guy, guess what she danced with him to it and my heart was broken. At the time I felt like I had just been dumped on and things were never the same again, regretably we lost contact, of course I blamed him.
What I am trying to say is your friend still cares enough to involve you (unlike mine)and you should give her credit for that. Its only natural that she got a boyfriend and when you get someone, you wont be half as much interested in what she is doing either. Of course you are jelous, as I was but dont let your friendship fail - trust me, years on you might need her and because of you jelousy she wont be there. Try and except the boyfriend, he fell for the same qualitys you love her for. x
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reader, bully07  +, writes (11 December 2007):
no don't worry lol sounds like a classic case of friend jealousy, its understandable because i know if that were my scenario i wud do the same thing, u get immediately bumped down from best person in the world when they get a boyfriend. I had this problem w/ my guy friend when he got a girlfriend. It sounds like ur inexperienced, and ur friend was the only other person who u felt u cud relate to in that respect, and now shes not a virgin and shes makin out all the time n u still feel like ur not progressing and ur alone in this. well i'm the exactttt thing and it realllly bothered me so dont worry ur not alone.
but what i did w/ my fried, i wudn call u a bitch cuz its understandable, but i would try to accept the guy as much as possible, for the sake of ur friend. Its gonna be hard believe me but chances are if shes ur age it wont last and u will have been there for ur friend thru it all and she'll appreciate that. just apologize and explain to her why u've been acting the way u have. But at the same time express that it makes u uncomfortable and feel third wheelish when she makes out w/ him, and if u like, tell her not to tell u every detail of their relationship, like i dont think u had to know that they slept together last weekend...that kinda stuff...and hopefully that'll help rekindle ur friendship, if uve been friends for 16 years u can stick thru this small dilemma :)
good luck!
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reader, sweetheart22 +, writes (11 December 2007):
You are probably just feeling like he's taking your bestfriend from you. I know how you feel. Just tell her how you feel and ask her if she can balance her time between you and the guy. You probably don't hate the guy, just the fact that she had the guy.
You could also ask her to control herself when all three of you are hanging out. Learn to accept the guy and things will go good =]
Hope this helped!
xx
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (11 December 2007):
 I wouldn't call you a bitch, but you do sound jealous. However, with the making out thing, that's not right. They shouldn't be doing that in front of you. I think that is just plain-out disrespectful right there. Jealousy is normal. She needs to make time for just you and her again.
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