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*fogalilly
writes:I have blogged here several times about someone I was involved with last summer and into the fall. I ended it in October of 2009, but some reason I cannot get over it, I still see him when I go out, and we look at one another, I feel his eyes on me when I'm chatting with my friends. But the thing is that we have not spoken to one another in months, even if I still have feelings for him I cannot act on them. I think I really fell for this man, even though I know exactly what he is, things just did not end well for us. He always writes on his Facebook wall about how depressed and his given up, I really don't see what he has to be depressed about.I really want to get over him, what I feel for him really hurts, and I have tried everything to get over it. I have no idea how he feels about me, I really don't want to know, because there would be no chance at a real relationship, we are both strong willed and set in our ways. What can I do to get over this?
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (16 March 2010):
 The only real way to get over a break up is to maintain a no contact rule. Delete him from all your social networking sites, get rid of his numbers, his pictures and anything that reminds you of him. Avoid going to places he goes. Hard at first but soon you will find you go through a whole day without thinking of him and then a week and so on.
There were obvious good reasons why the relationship ended. Your a balloon weighted to the ground by the memories and reminders of him. Cut the string so you can be free and move on. xxx
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reader, ffogalilly +, writes (16 March 2010):
ffogalilly is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI asked him once if he was having sex with others, he said no and I think he was telling the truth. But no, I'm not signing up to be with him again, because I figured out that I am smart, and just as good as any other woman. I did learn one thing from him, to keep yourself closed off and not let anyone in until you find the right person, and he isn't.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (15 March 2010):
 The link below has many articles about getting over an ex.I hope it will help you.
http://www.buzzle.com/articles/relationship-breakups/
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reader, ffogalilly +, writes (15 March 2010):
ffogalilly is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know that we should talk, but I have no idea how to go about it. We have not spoken since the day I told him it was over, things between us got way to complicated. I don't think he feels the same way I do, he is the first man to almost unlock my heart. He did say that he loved me twice, but he was very intoxicated when he said it, so I did not believe him and I still do not. I think that I ended it because the communication between us was awkward, I felt like that he ignored me, and he accused me of ignoring him, because he needed a ride somewhere and I didn't answer the phone, because I was tired from the night before, with him.
I am really afraid to talk with him, because I feel that he will not give me the same respect as I would him, and I screwed up a lot after it was over, and I am embarrassed at myself because of it. I even promised him that I would stay out of his way which I have kept my word, its just so damn hard to get over him.
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reader, ffogalilly +, writes (14 March 2010):
ffogalilly is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI would like to do that, but I know he would never take the time to listen to me, he would not even let me come over to end it, I had to do it over the phone. We're both 29 and still behaving like this, I feel like men are always afraid of me because I'm so strong willed. I will not get back together with him, because he made me feel like I was stupid and not good enough the entire time. It was not a real relationship, I liked him before we got together, but I let my heart cloud my judgment, and that was foolish on my behalf.
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reader, ashleyd +, writes (14 March 2010):
I'm afraid it's not just as simple as me saying "do this to get over him." Matter of the heart are awkward and yes, they hurt, but at other times they can be comforting. I think you need some closure, it seems like it ended abruptly and neither or you planned for it to, or particularly wanted it to, so I would suggest a talk with him, sit him down and talk about why you broke up with him, or if he broke up with you, vice versa. It would help to have that last little bit of closure before you move on, so you're not confused or still hurting about the break-up. I hope I helped :)
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