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26-29,
anonymous
writes:i have this problem with girls. i am 16 and last year at this time this girl and i liked each other. well...... it was the end of the school year and i had many opportunites to ask her out but i wimped out. i havent seen her at all this year accept from across the hall. i have also turned into a shy guy but before i was out going and talkative. i cant get over the fact that i wimped out.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (28 April 2012):
 Shy Guy,
I'm so glad that Susie answered this first. It shows you what many girls expect of us, and will respect in us when we do it. They want us to be confident enough in ourselves to ask. It also points out that they will still respect us even if they turn down the request.
Now for Dad's advice. Hey, we all fear rejection. It is hard to put it all on the line. Don't lose before you try. You will miss 100% of the shots you don't take. The first one is going to be the hardest, but if you don't get on that horse, you are never going to ride. And Stop being so hard on yourself. You only wimped out once. Don't you think you deserve a do over?
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reader, Aunty Susie  +, writes (28 April 2012):
 That is what happens when we don't take chances in life. When you fear something, such as rejection, and don't take that leap - asking a girl out- we then turn back in on ourselves and beat ourselves up for not taking opportunities. Each time then, in the future, when we are again faced with our fears and we run, life just gets harder and harder.
You can learn an early life lesson from this. You know what you want, just go straight up and ask for it. If you get rejected, you'll recover, then just look for the next girl that you might like to ask out.
Rejection is much easier to live with than regret.
Don't live your life with regret, as you've had a taste of that already, and it doesn't taste good hey?!
Go for it, and I bet you'll get your confidence back.
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