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writes:Hi, I have a senior prom problem. I'm a senior in High School, and there is a girl who I am "best friends" with, who I had feelings for, that I asked to prom, and she said yes. The girl doesn't go to my school, and seeing her is a problem. Lately, she has been blowing me off when we are supposed to see each other, and completely ignoring me. I don't want to take someone to prom who isn't even nice to me, and clearly doesn't like me, and is bored with me. There is another girl who goes to my school who just became available for prom, and I really want to take her. I know I would have more fun with her, and it wouldn't be as awkward, and she treats me much better, except I already told the other girl I would take her. How can I let her down easy, and tell her that I want to go with someone else? Reply to this Question
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (22 March 2013):
 My guess is this 'best friend' of yours wants out of this arrangement as much as you do so I wouldn't be too worried about hurting her.Instead of just blowing her off though, I would give her a chance to address her behaviour in case she simply has things on her mind. Email might be best here. It would allow her a chance to compose herself and think about what she wants before she answers. She probably feels bad about possibly hurting you by cancelling, which would explain her resentment.Whatever you say keep it upbeat and brief and don't expect an immediate response. Give her a week. If you don't hear back from her then send her another email cancelling your arrangement and ask out the other girl.Be classy. Just because she has behaved badly doesn't mean you have to.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (21 March 2013):
 I would go with iAmHereToHelpYou's suggestion and give her a call and say :
"hey, I'm really sorry, but I've decided to make other plans for prom."
The sooner the better, before she buys a dress and so forth.
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reader, llifton +, writes (21 March 2013):
 if she sees no problem in blowing you off, i see no problem in you blowing her off. just tell her straight out that you don't wish to take her anymore. tell her that you don't like the way she's treated you. that's IF you can get her to answer the phone. if not, then just send her a text. she'll get it. just treat her the same way she's been treating you. have fun on your prom night! you only have high school prom twice in your life at most! don't waste it being unhappy!
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