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writes:I'm 20 years old and my girlfriend is 25. When our relationship started we were having amazing sex at least 3 times a day, everyday.At around the 4th month she said something like "this is the longest i've ever been interested in sex". in her previous relationships she would be bored of the sex by 2 months in.Well, around the fourth month it kicked in and she stopped haing sex with me. sHe claims to have no desire for sex. I know she's not cheating on me and i know that she's having orgasms. This is just some problem she's had her whole life. we've had many heart to hearts on the subject and she's making no effort to change.It's extremely frustrating for me and even though i love her, this may destroy our relationship.How can I get her to have sex with me? How do I get her in the mood?
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reader, pgissyd  +, writes (19 November 2007):
 yeah thatsa common problem with no sure answer. One thing that may help you though, is that women are turned on mentally not so much physically like men are. Stimulte her brain, suduce her mind not her body, the phisical will follow. And its not sex its passion, making love and so on. Sex is something yu do on a one night stand, if you make love toher she will enjoy it more.
Assult her senses with talk, write stuff down, show her with your body language, forplay is more than using your hands.
tell her she is sexy and you love to just look at her, tell her how good she smells, buy a couples soft pornography video and sit with her through it.
show her how much you need her, but do not demand she satify you, she will do but only once you have her in the mood.
I wish it were that easy with men.... My husband is always 'too tired' grrr lol.
Seriously, flirt with her and romance her, she will soon start on the physical stuffagain xxxxxxx
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