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writes:how do i get my new girlfriend to feel more open about sex?in the past 4 weeks i've been talking about sex alot with my new girlfriend trying to pick out what she like what she dont like. but i always get " shut up " or she ignores me.she doesn't like 2 talk about sex at all like she hates or something.with my ex partner i asked her a million questions about her ex boyfriends what nasty stuff she got up 2 my ex had about 6-7 lads and i got 2 know alot about what my ex and stuff.but my new girlfriend as never once talked about her ex boyfriends she doesn't tell me how shes like it. i've had sex wv her about 10 times and everytime she doesn't make a noice she just breathes heavy and the last time we did it i asked her if she come or not she said yeah. but she didn't change the look on her my ex girlfriend always looked diffrent when she come.i wanna treat my new girlfriend like my ex i love giveing oral sex 2 my ex but my new girlfriend is a big NO y? because shes mega hairy in between her legs and i dnt know how 2 work around it. i went down on her once didn't last longer then 20 seconds before i got her public hair in my mouth it was nasty as hell.i'm really really really good at oral sex and i love give it as much as i love 2 get it myself. but with my new girl being 2 hair i refuse to give it 2 her.we've been 2gether 2months and i dnt know anything she likes. i've got the idea she loves 2 just lay there and doesn't even move when it comes 2 getting undressed i have 2 undress her everytime and most of the time she just removes her top or bra and nofthing else apart from the first time i've never once seen my girlfriend remove her pants and panties.how can i get 2 be more open?do u girls like 2 tell the guy how u like if ya like that postion or if u want it in another postion.i feel like everytime we have sex if i didn't make a move on her we wouldn't have sexdo u think she enjoys haveing sex with me?she tells me all the time i'm really good but i dnt think i am because shes not all over my like i was with my ex
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2007): Id say back off a bit. If you cant respect the girl or her desire to not shave etc- then she shouldnt be respecting the fact that you want sex. Try to make your relationship deeper than that- share other experiences, talking etc and that might open up her more emotionally to you. Females are hard wired to connnect emotion with sex. If theres no emotion- the sex is shitty- so if you can focus on connecting to her in other ways- appreciate what she does and how she is and not her body- she may in return find more value for you.
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reader, fairydust +, writes (14 May 2007):
 you sound very immature, you should have more respect for you g/friend. it also sound like your still in love with your ex bot you need to remember this girl isnt your ex so she will be different. if your partner doesnt like talking about sex then dont try and force her. you can learn what your girl likes in time but as you have not been together long she may jus be shy give her time and grow up. as for oral sex if your girl does have a lot of hair that is her preference so get over it. have you asked your girl if she really is ready for sex maybe she jus going along with it cuz she feels she has to
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2007): You don't say your age but I believe you are a young teenager. I think your girlfriend may have problems with sex in general. Maybe she is just engaging into it because her ex-boyfriend/s and/or you manipulated her into it or maybe she was raped or something. Evidently she is not enjoying this experience and it seems like she doesn't need it. I was a virgin for a long time and hated when guys wanted me to engage in sexual conversations or activities. Even when I lost my virginity and had sex regularly with my boyfriend I would not want to talk much about sex because I felt kind of guilty. Sometimes I just had sex with my boyfriend just because he wanted it, not because I felt something special or because I couldn't control myself. Are you sure she is not on medication? Because that sure takes away a lot of the libido and makes you less interested in sex. I know that when I use medication for anxiety my libido almost disspears and it's frustrating. I know a lot of women on medication must fake orgasms just to please their mates so this could be the case with her. If I were you I would stop having sex with her as if nothing happens to see what she does. Just go on with the relationship and forget about sex for a while. If all the sexual activity is what is bothering her about the relationship for some unknown reason you'll see the change in her when she feels she no longer has to face that pressure with you. When she feels she can trust you more then she will talk about it. Hope this helps a little.
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reader, dchard  +, writes (14 May 2007):
She dont know you.Shes not ready give he sometime every women is not the same she might be the type that feels she shouldn't have to tell you. She wants you to already know If yall do have sex explore her body to find out yourself thats what a real man does when she flinch, shut hereyes harder or get louder you found something.
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