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writes:hi I have fallen in love with this man but he is married and has a kid. I don't know what to do i am 18 and he is 41. i really want to be with him what shall i do. Reply to this Question
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reader, mizc22  +, writes (25 May 2007):
 baby, i guesss we are in the same boat, he is an old man who likes the young fun, but will not ever leave his family for you, he is only making himself feel like a mna, you make him feel good becos you are young, i really like the guy i am with too, but he wont ever leave the old bag he is married to, so you can either deal with it or find a single guy
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reader, m698778  +, writes (24 May 2007):
HELLO!! do you realize the age difference between you and him. he's old enough to be your dad ya know, it's bit awkward having feelings for a guy this age!! you should find someone around your own age. anyways..... you should really think about this and what your actions are portraying to yourself and to him. just be careful of your actions. remember think before you act, this is a big decision your making.
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reader, Jordan- +, writes (15 May 2007):
 i have the same problem hun, there is a big difference like u and him with me and the person that i like, if he tells u he lieks u and wants to be with u then ask him if he thinks your are worth givin up his family for because untill u know that u will be leading a pointless life hopeing its going to end up with this man, why should u waste years/months being his little bit on the side ! thats how i feel but i kno its not as easy as that seeing as im in the same position. do what ya heart tells u and not what ever someone else says !
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2007): Tough situation, but having a major background in this one, I myself at 17 fell totally in love with a 27 year old man with 2 boys. He actually left his wife,we got married, first 5 years what a nightmare, a 2 year old and a 1 year old boy. At 17 it was a shocker, i stuck it out the oldest boy ended up living with us at age 5 he moved in. I have to say i lve oth boys like my own.
The ex wife was a total nightmare,we were always broke, child support and other things.Not a easy life for any young woman to endure. After 8 years of marriage , my husband cheated with another on me, then at 12 years he cheated again, and at 17 years then again, the third time i didnt forgive,i booted him we seperated for a year.
Both boys fully grown now, live on their own,they still call me mom, myself and my husband still working on putting things behind us. Still married but because of the 10 year age gap we grew up and apart for many reasons.
Both want diffrent things,he is older i am younger we argue or tv shows,music,food,activities now because of that age gap.
Im not suggesting you go or you stay,we cant always help who we fall in love with.Emotions are hard to shut off.But look at it as ,unless you have strength to actually endure what road is in frnt of you and it will be the toughest road to life ever if you choose to stay.
just read the examples i put in front of you and know,he cheating on her with you ,it happens again.The kids hate you for a few years,they eventually might lighten up in the end.The ex will drain every dollar either of you make together ,because the kids and her where there first.
Good Luck
hope you make the right decision.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2007): I agree! I got involved with a 27 year old man with 2 kids to his first wife and I was 17. We are married now and have one child of our own that is 13. We are now 32 and 42. The last 15 years have been a living hell. The fighting and problems with his children not to mention his ex wife. We also have very very different outlooks on life growing up in different decades. Please reconsider! I hate to see someone as young as you ruin your whole life. It will be hard to let go, but I feel liveing through this nightmare, I is for the best for you. Good Luck in whatever you choose to do.
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reader, dchard  +, writes (14 May 2007):
Girl let me tell you something.I was in your shoes for a year except the guy was younger and we havn't even had sexual relations. Why I loved him? He wass everything I ever wanted in a man.You know what kept me away though? He wanted a sexual relation ship but I fear GOD now I'm not going to preach to you but I seen alot of situation like trhis and all I mean ALL turned out horrible.First of all girl God ain't gonna see you with that womans man. ya'll will never be happy thats not his baby mama that's his wife. You don't know how people are that woman might kill you about her husban girl. You need to repent and leave that man alone cause when you do get married and have kids you'll be 41 and somebody 18 gonna be sleeping with your husban.Besides think about it 41 he has already lived his life he'll be dead before your baby turn 21. Leave that lady husban alone cause woman to woman its hard for real women like me to keep a man cause of women like you. If that lady were me and I found out about you.YOU WOULD GET HURT.Sorry honey I don't sugga coat nothing find your own man.If he'll sleep with you on his WIFE WITH KIDS AND YEARS IN A RELATIONSHIP GIRL. YOU ARE NOBODY TO HIM. He messing with you cause she done got old and you can can keep it movein and she just lay there cause she tired.Girl I can go on for days. Stop seeing that man trust me.
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