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*arah80
writes:My name is Sarah, my husband and I been married for 4 years and we have beautiful 3 year old son. my marriage is in jeopardy right now b/c I was having a sexual relationship with another man for the past few months, I felt something was wrong in my marriage and instead of talking to my husband about it and working it out, I turned to another man and was sleeping with him. I felt guilty and want to fight for my marriage and want to work at it, so I ended the relationship with this guy and I told my husband about the affair, rightfully so he was angry and furious with me, we had a long fight that night, and he ended up taking our son with him to his parents house for awhile, but we decided not to separate and we are seeing a marriage counselor.But my problem is that my mother in law seems to be interfering with our problem, she keeps sending a list of divorce lawyers to my husband, she keeps telling me that my husband and my son would be better off without me, and that my son doesn't need a whore for a mom, she makes it a point to call me that everytime she sees me, the other day when I went to pick up my son she refused to give him to me, my father in law which is her husband had to step in and tell her to stop it. My husband and the rest of his and my family have stood by me and told her she needs to stop, but she doesn't she just keeps on and on, What should I do? How can our marriage work if she is doing this?
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reader, Sarah80 +, writes (9 November 2008):
Sarah80 is verified as being by the original poster of the question You guys are right I will not let her get to me, I am focused on my marriage and earning my husbands trust. But how do I found out she isn't insulting me infront of my son when Im not there? I need to talk to my husband about this as well. I love my husband and son, they are more important to me right now.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (9 November 2008):
 I believe that your mother-in-law is a serious problem, but not the most serious of them all. The worst problem is the fact that you need to rebuild the relationship. Her nagging won't help, and I bet she will make it very difficult for both your husband and you. But she's a fact of life, and she'll be there forever. I think you will have to live with the fact that she won't like you anymore. Maybe she never did, in the first place.
Your marriage can work if you make it work. See it this way: if you can make it worth despite your mother-in-law's meddling, you will prove your husband that he's right to give you another chance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2008): This is something that should be brought up in your counseling sessions. If your husband is willing to forgive you and work things out, then it is none of her damn business! (sorry, I got a little passionate about the subject) Try not to let her know she's getting to you. Shrug off her comments, and actions and continue to re-earn the trust and respect of your husband! This will take time, patience and effort on your part. Don't expect it to happen over night!
One important point comes to mind...do not let this interfering woman "poison" your childs mind against you! Talk to your husband about this and ask him to take a stand! By what she is doing she is not only showing direspect for you but her son as well! He needs to set his mom straight!
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