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writes:Lately depression has been taking control again, it's been really hard to fight it again. I've always been a negative person, which makes it harder for me to deal with depression, or the begining of it even. I'm happy, usually a while in a day, but after a while, it hits me so hard, I can't keep the tears out of my eyes, I can't keep the bad thoughts out of my mind. I've been urging my mom to sign me up for therapy, because of my bad anxiety, but it hasn't happened yet, and she doesn't know about my depression. I want to leave, in all honesty. I want to go away, and just leave everyone for a week or so. Go to a Mental Hospital, I'd probably be laughed at for going, but I want to just get away. It seems like being around people at school, being around friends, family, it just makes things, difficult. I'm seriously on the point of going, but how do I even ask my mom to send me to a mental ward? She'd tell me I don't need to go, same with therapy. What do I do? I need help, I really do, but how do I even get any? I'm too young to enter myself in a mental hospital, and I don't even have a car to drive me there, or to therapy, much less do I have my license. Can anyone help me? Tell me what I need to do, cause I know I need to get help before it gets bad like it did last time.. Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (20 August 2012):
 Your mom isn't the one who can send you away, or help you get therapy. You need to talk to your doctor! Or a school councilor if you have any and perhaps your school has an arrangement itself for students who need therapy. When I was in high school all the high schools in my city were linked to it's own therapy center. I actually got sent there without asking for it. So the clue I guess is to make your case obvious to someone who can help you get help. If you've told your mother how you feel, and she wont help you, then ask someone else. That could be a teacher, or school councilor, or your doctor. I'd start with your doctor.
Parents can find it very hard to see that their child needs help beyond the help they can offer themselves. Parents are "blind" in many ways when it comes to their own children and any problems they may have. In their eyes their children are perfect, have no problems, need no help. Alarm signals are overlooked, because a parent can tend to only see the good in their children, which has both it's positive and negative sides. On the plus side she thinks you are a strong young adult who can take on the world. On the negative side she fails to understand that you sometimes need help.
But talking to a doctor, or a teacher, and you will probably get a much different response.
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reader, BettyBoup  +, writes (20 August 2012):
 Do not think of a mental ward as a clam place to heal. They are not. I've been there, trust me. You will be with people who have much worse problems and to see that when you are depressed will be traumatic. It should be a last resort for when there is no one else to help you.
Have you been to your doctor? You can get treatment from them. If your mum is worried about cost, explain to her that you understand therapy will have to be payed for but insist that you need it or you may need to go to a mental hospital if you don't get help. There may be group therapy for free in your area. Talk to your doctor about this. See what options there are. If you feel you want to get away from it all, could you go camping? Spending time in nature on your own, could help you clear your head. Hang in there. This will get better. Try to stop yourself worrying too much about your negative feelings and instead find things to do that make you feel good. Every little thing adds up and you feel better.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (20 August 2012):
 You just need a good therapist or counselor. You certainly don't want to go to a mental ward. You will be crazy when you come out of that place. If your Mom doesn't want to sign you up, go see your school guidance counselor, they'll know what to do. Maybe you're Mom feels like she can't afford counseling, but I'm sure there are programs available that will help with the cost. If that doesn't work, Christian counseling is free and it's as close as your nearest church. Good luck.
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