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writes:How do I get my man back? He tells me he wants to work things out but I am tired of waiting. Should I continue to wait for him? Reply to this Question
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reader, Truly Devastated +, writes (5 July 2008):
I am in the same boat as you so I probably won't be of much help, but I'll try. If you're like me and you sound like it, you believe that real love is rare and that once you've put your all into a man and built something together that you shouldn't just let it go under the first signs of pressure, if it's real, it's worth fighting for. i was in a serious 4 yr. live in situation with my fiance and he just moved out two months ago. i'm still fighting for our relationship and I know that he has another lady now too. i feel you in every way. To me, my man is still just that, MINE! If you feel the same way, wait for him but do the best you can to let him know that you don't know how long you can continue to wait. You need answers from him. That's what i'm doing and today he told me that it may take some months but he thinks I can get my man back. I think you can have yours too. Keep the faith and if you believe in God, pray for him to have a change of heart and come back to you. i wish you the best of luck with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2008): you should give him a bit more time, and if he does not make any progress in the next few weeks say your done and you have better things to do. unless u really love this man and u think he is worth waiting for tell him u want to get things sorted quickly and try and help him out so the job gets done quicker cause most men are slackers and they like to ignore the situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2007): Go out... date other man, enjoy....
and in the process if the first one comes back good,
if he doesn't .. you lost nothing...ok
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy ex is still around. He tells me that he is still not ready to move in. It is going to three months and he is still not ready. He is going on vacatin with our Son this week. i can not go because his family does not want me aroud but he tells me that we are still going to work things out even though his family tells him no. But I am getting tired of waiting. I feel that he is just playing with my feelings so that he don't hurt me anymore. He was involved with someone else. Till this day I do not know if she is still in the picture because every weekend he spends with us. So I do not know if the other woman still exist. Can some one tell me what should I do. I want to wait for him but I feel that i am missing out because there is a nice guy that I met here at work and he is single and wants to take me out. i have told him my situation and he understands. He tells me that he will give me time to see what I want. He tells me he really likes me and that he wants to show me what a woman should be treated like because the ex is just playing games. i do not know if I should go out on a date with this guy to see what happens, but I am afraid. can some one advise.....
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reader, Chado +, writes (9 May 2007):
Again I don't agree with either answer above. A common misconception in relationship is the "Why" factor. "Why, why, why?" Knowing why your precious china got broken, isn't the same as picking up the broken pieces off the floor. It doesn't matter why. What does matter is what you say and do and believe. You can analyze away, but until some action is taken nothing changes. But how do you know if your making the right choices? How do you know whether or not what you are doing will produce the desired outcome? The truth is sometimes you don't. Some of us are more trial and error, whist others are better at learning how first and then applying.
Now the reason why I don't agree with the first advice, is because he is wrong. Also, you have been lied to that time is a factor that determines the quality of a relationship. The quality and intensity of a relationship is not dependent upon any length of time. Many people live for years in unhappy relationships, because there are other comforts that they found within it. Any relationship can be torn apart for any number of reasons.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI love this man with all my heart. After spending 12 years of my life with him. Love does not vanish just like that. And I know that he stills loves me too, but I feel that the day is never going to get here for us to get back together. We have been talking for 2 months, the first month was nothing but arguing because I know that the other woman that he is seeing is still in the picture. But this second month I have told my self I was not with this man for 12 years for me to loose him just like that. I love him and I want to spend the rest of my life with him. And I want him to be with his son and me. I feel that I have been waiting too long for him to decide if he wants to come back, he tells me yes, hespend the noght with us Saturday it was great but then came Sunday morning and he left and we did not hear from him at all. these kind of things are the ones that drive me crazy. and makes me want to just say the hell with it. but I love him so much that I am still waiting. I wish he could give me a date or something but all I know id that he needs time. What do I suppose to do. Please advise
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe broke up because I started haging out with co-workers after work for happy hour while he was out playing ball. He said he needed time to think things over. I do not believe that a 12 year relation ship can be broken just like that. There is still so many strong feelings that keeps us together.
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reader, rammsteinfan +, writes (28 April 2007):
 It all depends on how much you love him. If you really think that you want to spend the rest of your life with him, then by all means continue to wait for him.
If you don't think that it will work out between you two, then move on....You could miss out on a much more rich and meaningful relationship!!
Good Luck!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2007): We need more information on why you two broke up in the first place.
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