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writes: My little brother (he's 5) hates my boyfriend. I'm really not sure why he does. If he comes over my bro will stoke with his water gun or silly string (if only he's holding my hand) or he'll call him "pooh" or "tool". He'll (my bf) all get mad all at me. Now my bf won't come to my house anymore. I do admit my bro can be rude to him sometimes and I do let it hasppen but only because I dont know what to do. How can I get him to stop? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2009): And great suggestion, retropettyput. There are ways of getting little bro to think, "Hey, this guy is pretty neat afer all".
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2009): (smile) Maggie, your lil' bro is possessive of you. You are his big sis and probably his best friend..in his eyes. He is jealous of bf. It isn't bf's fault. Lil'bro would be jealous of any other boy friend. You might try just talking about bf and telling bro that he is a "friend" but bro is your "special sweety" or whatever and always will be. He needs to know that bf is not taking anything from him (your love and affection). My little niece became very possessive of me when she and her mother stayed with the family when my brother was in the military and stationed on a remote assignment. I was only sixteen, but I became her "father" substitute. She was very jealous of my girlfriend. Nothing about gf was right. She was "uggy and fat..and stinky"...she would go into the kitchen when gf was over and we were watching TV and stare daggers at her the whole time. It was funny, really, and my gal handled it very well. We all laugh about it now.
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reader, dangerouslove.  +, writes (11 January 2009):
 It could be that your brother isjealous to see another male figure in your life,and obviously goes about it in obnoxious ways!Or, it could just be that he is young and annoyinglike most little brothers are! There is nothingmuch you can really do, seeing how he's only five years old. Try going over to his place,or have him come over when your brother is in bed,or just be in private places with him, like yourbedroom for example, if that is allowed, if notjust tell your mom how you feel and maybe she couldtell him to leave the two of you alone.I have an older brother so I know how you feel.Except my brother threatens to beat my boyfriends up if they ever hurt me, and so on! They never change. Your his sister, he could just be trying to protect you in his own little way. Best of luck..
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reader, retropetyput  +, writes (11 January 2009):
Hmmm I had the same thing with my little brother (6) when I was serious with a girl.
He would tease her non stop like little kids do and since my parents worked night shifts we always had to watch him. For the first month we were together she came over all the time and we barely paid attention to my brother. Obviously I fedhim and took care of him but I wanted alone time. This upset him and he reacted this way as getting attention. Since we both reacted negativly he continued and so on. So we decided 'hey spend time with the runt.' so we took him to the park and ice cream and the works.
The trick is to let your boyfriend seem like the one comeing up with all the cool ideas to hang out and take your brother out. This way in your brothers eyes hes the next best thing to sliced bread.
Now you dont have to do it often (once a month to keep him remembering) but It gives you and your boyfriend a better chance to go out and enjoy life while takeing care of something that means a great deal to you. If he doesnt want to do it then take a step back. Your brother just wants attention
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reader, PsychicDove  +, writes (11 January 2009):
 You need to see this that your bf is unable to be patient with such a small kid. Isn't that insensitive of him? Your little brother is jealous that you are giving your attention to a stranger (bf) and not to him (your little brother). OMG he is a baby, your bf should be more understanding. You get to know about a person's nature by his behaviour towards a waiter as well as a baby. Hope your bf realises he needs to be more understanding with a 5 year old.
~ Dove
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