How do I get my girlfriend to talk to my sister after what she did?

A male age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Ive known my girlfriend for about 10 yrs but not been together for that long. We met up one day and we hit it off (originally just being friends) and have been dateing for about 6 months but known each other forever, always talking about the future of marrage and kids. Things were amazing, going great. We were always together sleeping over in the same bed every night. Just in love couldn't ask for anything better in this world. Until... one day my sister was looking for me and showed up at her house uninvited with her best friend (also my ex). My sister caused a scene by hitting me and calling me names and insulting my girlfriend. All while my girlfriends son 6yrs old was playing outside seeing the whole thing. She is very protective over her child and she should be. And is so upset that this all happened infront of her son. Since then my girlfriend was growing distant, not sleeping over anymore and not seeing eachother. We still talk everyday and finally me and my sister had a talk about this whole thing and she is getting help for her anger and counseling and is sorry for what happened. Me and the sister are working things out. But the strain that it caused my girlfriend is she is still hurt and pushing me away for something I did not do. She still claims to love me, and just needs to clear her head on things (finally confessing to me why she has been in a bad mood and distant, she is not over it). My sister is truly sorry for the mistakes she made, but girlfriend doesn't want to talk to her and our relationship is diminishing to just to communication over the phone. This is eating me up alive and not sure what I can do or say to make my girlfriend feel better or ensure her that this would never happen again. Sister stepped up to take any conciquence that is comeing her way and says if she needs to talk she will do it, any terms my girlfriend want. If she wants to yell, my sister said she deseves it all. She is sorry, and the first time in my life i believe her 100 percent. But girlfriend is looking in the future saying this is the first impression I got from her, I don't know if I can be friends with her or ever forgive her for insulting her at her own house and infront of her child and my girlfriend being very family orientated. How do I get my girlfriend to sit and talk to my sister. Is communication the only way to cure this fued. My relationship counts on it. Any ideas??

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