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reader, doctorlove  +, writes (9 December 2009):
doctorlove is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwe both talked to her and let her know she wasn't wanted in our relationship. besides that we now have broken phones!!!!
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reader, doctorlove +, writes (9 December 2009):
doctorlove is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy fiance and I finally got it through her head that she wasn't wanted in our relationship. Now we both have a broken phone!!!!!lol.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2009): thanks for the update. how was it resolved?
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reader, doctorlove +, writes (7 December 2009):
doctorlove is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe issue is resolved thank you all for your help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2009): You are speaking to the wrong person. Tell your boyfriend that it is upsetting you and that it is his responsibility to solve problems arising from his old relationships. If it were the other way around he wouldn't be chatting with your ex. You've taken on a responsibility which is not yours and -- because of that -- you lack authority to enforce a solution.Whether he solves it by telling her to stop, talking firmly to the sisters about the common courtesy of keeping his new number private (or they won't be told what it is), simply deleting the incoming messages unread, or reporting the woman as a telephone stalker is up to what he can make stick.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (6 December 2009):
So you'd rather use violence and get a criminal record for assault, than use the law to your advantage?
Your boyfriend will be quite unimpressed with you when he has to bail your bleeding face out of the police station.
You have clearly already decided what you want to do so go and do it and I hope she doesn't do you too much physical damage that leaves scarring.
Have fun in prison! The jury will find against you as you went round there.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, doctorlove +, writes (6 December 2009):
doctorlove is verified as being by the original poster of the questionemilyanswers... we have tried all of that. I do not want this to become a legal matter. If it gets messy then it will get messy I will at least be fighting for the only thing I have left and the only person I love more than life it self.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (6 December 2009):
Could you ask his sisters NOT to pass on his number?
If you try and settle this woman to woman it's going to get messy and she;s probably going to use it as an excuse to start a fight.
Get him to tell her that he WILL call the police if he hears from her again. She has a warning and if she does it then you can get a restraining order.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, doctorlove +, writes (6 December 2009):
doctorlove is verified as being by the original poster of the questionim 17 going on 18 and yes i am getting married no he didnt cheat she did.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2009): you are 16/17 and getting married??
did he cheat on her?
what is your real age?
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reader, doctorlove +, writes (6 December 2009):
doctorlove is verified as being by the original poster of the questionemilyanswers him and i have both tried. If he changes his number his sisters will give her the number AGAIN!!! It's not just him she has texted. She has been texting me and I really want to settle this situation woman to woman but I don't know how to go about doing that.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (6 December 2009):
YOU don't do anything. If YOU try to talk to her calmly then it will make the situation worse.
If you want her to leave you alone then HE has to get rid of her.
Tell him you are sick of this and you want HIM to deal with HIS ex. Get him to either talk to her or change his number.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, doctorlove +, writes (6 December 2009):
doctorlove is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks caringguy.. but my problem is deeper than that. He can't change his number without her finding it. You see both of his sisters are her friend and are trying to break us up. So no matter what she gets the number. I don't want to make this a police matter I just want to settle it woman to woman.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (6 December 2009):
You tell your boyfriend to change his number, cut all contact and forget her. Every time you get any message from her, don't reply, but keep it. Then, if she does't stop, take it all to the police and say she's stalking him.
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