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writes:Hi, I have been friends with my boyfriend for about a year and we've been basically dating for about six months now and official for about two. We recently moved in together and ever since it's been non stop fighting. He still cannot open up to me what so ever (or so he says) but he can still cry in front of me. We fight about once every other day but the days we aren't fighting it's awesome. I care about him so much but with all the fighting I don't know how much longer it can last. In fact, when I told him I thought I loved him (which he knows was very hard for me) he responded with "I like you a little too". So when he took a trip for a few days I decided to try to get myself over him. When he got back we got in a huge fight but made up. Now I think his feelings for me are stronger then ever but unfortunatly I think I already lost most of mine! I don't want to lose him or end it, not to mention we still have like ten months to go on our lease! Any hints on how I can get my feelings back? And please no "talk to him about it" replys, trust me, it doesn't work or I wouldn't be writing this! Please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2011): My boyfriend and I have beeen going through the same thing.We have nown eachother for 6 years and have been together for 1 year and have a baby girl on the way.We always fight it's a constant battle with me and him we always fight and get back together.
I'm telling you I know were you are comming home his feelings started to get stronger and i just couldnt do it becaue he always called me names and always put me down.
I don't want to tell you what to do but please make the right choice because trust me there are other fish in the sea i know you prebley hear that all the time but trust me it might take awhile but you will not regert it
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reader, Original shiraz!  +, writes (27 June 2009):
Maybe you moved too quickly? He wont show emotion as your not that far ahead yet, crying is his way out of saying how hes actually feeling, you instantly assume its sadness but its deeper than that, at this point you lack the emotional attachment maybe you need to take a step back? I think your past talking, your feelins are already fading its a case of too much too soon and now your paying the price, quite literally. Moving in together is a huge commitment that i sense your already regretting? Sometimes it doesnt work out the way you plan, the best thing you can do is decide how you feel, stick by this and plan what your going to do next. You dont get feelings back, not like they once were, when you loose them the fact that they once went stays with you, things like that you cant control, yet the things you can are the ones you need to work at. Sometimes you have to walk away for all the right reasons, you cant live a lie. Dont carry on like this, deep down you know your options and you know that although its not ideal maybe walking away is the best thing to do. Best of luck in your future, what ever you decide think of every single thing that goes on, you lack the balance and your begining to lack the love, if thats not the end to what once was then i dont know what is. Sorry to be blunt its just when people fall in love they try to grab it knowing its gone. Dont make the mistakeBest of luck
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