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writes:I have boyfriend who is 2 yr older and lives 80 mi. away. How do i get my dad to drive me to see him without telling my dad about us? I have a cousin down there so i could say im visiting him(he introduced us actually)but that will get old quickly. What do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmy dad has met the guy. I dot want my mom to find out(my parents are divorced) she'll flip.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (19 February 2009):
 O.k. I'm a dad, and you are asking how to pull the wool over your dad's eyes, so this is probably not the answer you are looking for.
Do you really want to live a life full of lies and deception? How will this model for dealing with your family affect your future relationships?
As a father of teenage girls I would like to be involved in their lives. I want to meet the guys they are seeing. I know that they are going to make their own decisions. I know they will make mistakes, have heart breaks, and so on, and I want to be there to be a shoulder for them when it happens. My advice is to tell your Dad, and keep him involved in your life. A good relationship with your dad will pay off in the short and long term. My other advice is to get the boy to do some of the travel. His willingness to drive or pay for transportation is a good indicator of his ability to get and hold a job, which should be important to you.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (19 February 2009):
O.k. I'm a dad, and you are asking how to pull the wool over your dad's eyes, so this is probably not the answer you are looking for.
Do you really want to live a life full of lies and deception? How will this model for dealing with your family affect your future relationships?
As a father of teenage girls I would like to be involved in their lives. I want to meet the guys they are seeing. I know that they are going to make their own decisions. I know they will make mistakes, have heart breaks, and so on, and I want to be there to be a shoulder for them when it happens. My advice is to tell your Dad, and keep him involved in your life. A good relationship with your dad will pay off in the short and long term. My other advice is to get the boy to do some of the travel. His willingness to drive or pay for transportation is a good indicator of his ability to get and hold a job, which should be important to you.
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reader, sally boo +, writes (19 February 2009):
the first thing you should do is just come clean and tell your dad...especially as he will be driving you there. i would like to know why you wont tell your dad about the relationship in the first place?...is it the age difference or something else?if its to do with the age difference dont worry...tell your dad...i was in the same situation...i wanted to go visit my boyfriend who was four years older than me but was scared to tell the parents...they ended up finding out and went crazy....but also said that if i had told them about it in the first place they would have helped me get there and as long as i was happy they didnt care bout the difference....so what im trying to say is lying wont get you anywhere.and you said yourself...the excuse will get old and it'll only get worse.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2009): why dont you tell him the truth?
admit you have aboyfriend who is alittle older and you want to see him.
but be grown-up about it, if your father refuses understand where he is coming from. he will be worried. but try and come to an agreement and say that you will stay with your cousin and your cousin will always be there. because i can imagine your dad will be thinking this boy will take advantage of his daughter.
good luck :)
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