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writes:my gf is not comfortable with receiving oral sex. how do i get her to become comfortable with it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2009): Good advice above... make sure that she understands that you like to please her and that you enough her body(looks, taste, smell....) and that it's a real pleasure for you.
Don't pressure her... and take you time... It may take a while to win her over.
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reader, kahlan  +, writes (21 August 2009):
 Some people never become comfortable with oral sex,try to get her to relax and dont dive right in(no pun intended).Start by kissing and licking her all over for a while before trying to go down on her.Give her lots of foreplay,but dont stick to the same spot for too long.I find it uncomfortable to be rubbed down there for ages.Has she ever been given oral before?If not,it might be nerves.Some girls feel uncomfortable because they think they smell,although its natural.Maybe you could share a bath or shower first.If she does let you and it is nerves,try and reassure her and tell her how shes turning you on,but if she really doesnt want to dont force her or try to guilt trip her into it.If she has been letting you go down on her,only doing it so often will make her get comfortable with it.Especially if you keep telling her how sexy she is and how much she turns you on.Kahlan.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (21 August 2009):
 You need to not push her into it first off. If she feels forced into it she will not enjoy it and will be self-conscious the whole time. A sure-fire way to never go down on her again. What you need to do is make sure she knows how much you want to do it. Tell her you would find it incredibly hot to be able to do this to her. Most women are self-conscious for two reasons, one, they are worried about how they smell and taste and two, they are self-conscious about how they look. You should tell her the way she smells and tastes turns you on. Even if she smells bad to you, you must insist that her smell and taste are totally hot to you. You should also tell her you're very fond of that body part and love the way it looks/smells/tastes and that just everything about it is wonderful. It might help to try it in the shower or just after so she knows it's totally clean down there. Also tell her that if she wants you to stop at any time, you will. After you do it or during, you should continue with the positives and telling her how she is and how hot doing this to her is (don't totally overload her with these compliments all at once though). You need to not pressure her into continuing though. It will take her quite a few times to relax and get into it, but if you keep giving her positive encouragement she'll get over her self-consciousness and enjoy it. Eventually anyways.
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