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writes:My g/f and I split up 9 moths ago but have been seeing each other as friends every few weeks. However, just as i thought she was showing signs of considering getting back with me I blew it by getting heavy, serious,clingy, heart on sleeve etc. Now we don't talk at all and there has been no contact from her for couple of months.I know I have chased her off and created a barrier between us but what should i do now? 1) reinitiate contact and be friendly,upbeat,light,funny etc and not mention us OR 2) Do nothing, do not attempt to contact her and hope this makes her 'wonder' why I am no longer chasing her and she is missing something? I now realise the mistakes i've made and wont make them again, but only if i get another chance. any advices greatly appreciated.
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reader, shania +, writes (22 February 2006):
 The fact that she hasnt bothered to contact you after 2 months...tells me that she isnt interested.I think you should stop all the chasing,you have made your feelings clear to her but yet she still doesnt want to know.Yes....she might start wondering on why you have stopped contacting her and come running back to you with open arms...but the chances are slim....i suggest that you leave her alone and get out there...into this big,wide world and find some other girl who will want you...
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2006): First of all, there is no "mistake" in showing this girl your true feelings. If I've learned anything with my past relationships, it is this: Everything happens for a reason. If you were becoming too "clingy, etc" and she didn't respond, then there's your answer.Don't you want to date someone who will appreciate your clinginess and affection?Honestly, if she wanted to be with you, she would have already contact you in some way. You in now way did anything wrong by telling her your true feelings. Take this relationship/broken heart as a learning lesson and try to move on. If she comes around, then you'll know.
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reader, Andy J +, writes (22 February 2006):
 Ummm, its abit of a tricky question mate. But thats one of the worse things to do - pressuring, gettin heavy etc. to be honest with u mate sitting here a computer screen and seeing what you've written. You said that she hasnt been in contact with you for a few months. That means to me that she doesnt want to know, i've been there. Its up to you to do the chasing and groveling etc if you still really like / love her.But its been a while since shes contacted you so did you not start to think about why?You need to take her out for dinner or even to a nice pub and talk to her and explain exactly how you feel. Its the only thing i can see you can do mate, just be straight with her and tell her. Hope i've been some help!!!
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