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writes:I don't really have any friends, and I want to know how can I make friends, and get girls to like me. Throughout life, I haven't been good at this at all. I don't go to regular school, I attend cyber school. I realized that by attending cyber school, I would have to give up my social life to an extent, but what can I really do now? I don't have a job, so I can't go out much at all. I don't know where I should meet people, I'm not even good at talking to people either. I'm usually timid. How can I get friends that are girls, and how can I get them to like me? I mean, I'm a good person, and there's mostly nothing wrong with me. The only thing is that I can't get people to talk to me, and I can't get to talk to people. I mean, it's like I have so much kindness to offer, but nobody is willing to notice it. Do you get my drift?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, spinnaker. I'll try going to the bookstore and hopefully, I can find someone that a can strike up a conversation with. I'll write an update in a day or so.
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reader, spinnaker +, writes (14 May 2011):
 The odds are pretty small if you do not take the initiative. Say hi to someone. Strike up a conversation. The Book store is perfect because there are millions of things to talk about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy parents are a bit over protective, and that's one reason why I don't live with either of them. And community events? The last thing that happened like that was the AIDS walk. My interests are reading, game playing, watching tv, using computers, and psychology. And I have went out before, and some people I know that have seen me don't bother to say hi. They may not have things against me, but there are rumors. I do live in a dangerous neighborhood, so I can't really take a walk, but I can take a bus to the mall, if I have money. Maybe I can hang in the bookstore and hope that I can strike up a conversation with someone, but what are the odds of that happening?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2011): The other poster is right, you need to get OUT there! You haven't been exposed to many young people your age, but there is nothing wrong with you. Don't worry.
Just because you're cyberschooled doesn't mean you can't meet other kids your age. You could get involved in theatre, a soccer team, youth groups at a church, play in a band, take martial arts. What are your interests?
Have you talked to your parents? They may also have good ideas.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2011): Are there any community or social events? They may be a good place to start. Even just going for a walk and getting out. If you have any male friends why don't you all go outside and hang out? This will give you the confidence to join other social activities. There isn't really a sure way to meet girls unless you are willing to go and talk to them, it just happens.
Good luck :)
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reader, spinnaker +, writes (13 May 2011):
What interests have you? What things do you like to do? Are there any groups or clubs or organizations around that line up with your interests and where you can go meet people that enjoy similar things you do?
The issue is not that people are unwilling to notice you it is just that you are not seen. People do not have anything against you - they just don't see you because you are not out there.
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