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writes:How does one transition from being lovers to only friends? It started out as this guy and I meeting each other at work. We began talking everyday, calling each other, and eventually we developed feelings for one another. Although neither of us wanted a relationship (he just ended an 11 yr relationship) we just kept at it....holding hands, kissing, joking around, sharing laughs, etc...we seriously fell for each other. then shit hit the fan when....I moved out of my apartments and fell on hard times. he invited me to stay at his house because they had a room available. well...things went from fooling around to a pseudo-relationship. and then after the fire blew out we just argued about dumb shit and i came to know his bad attitude that he has. also how he hides the fact that he still loves and may want to be with his child's mother.I just wanna know how to transition from lovers to only friends. I just only be friends with this guy. He is not someone I think I could ever be with. I love his friendship but I think we made a mistake when we crossed that line. I have stopped going out with him and have only recently stopped having sex with him. I was just wondering what else I could do to make this transition go over smoothly.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (3 April 2010):
Listen to the post written by Lindy87. He specifically is not over you, and won't be able to cope with just being friends. It's will hurt him a lot. It's time to move on.
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (3 April 2010):
 you can't. guys and girls cannot be 'friends'. ESPECIALLY once you've already slept with him. Three things will happen:
1. you will still want him sexually (and being as you stated you dont...this option is moot for you)
2. he will still want you sexually (whether or not he would admit to it)
3. you will lose contact
check out laddertheory.com for this. but the fact is...you already slept together and ruined whatever frindship u had
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