| A
female
age
,
*ocalgirl
writes: I want to date again... but I don't know how. I'm 42 but everyone tells me I look much younger. I've been divorced 8 years and am I full-time working single mom, so I haven't dated because I've been working on loving myself again... and being a mom. Now I'm ready... but I don't know how to get started. I've tried online, it hasn't worked for me. I am sort of shy in new situations, but I really want to just GO ON A DATE! I want to feel like I'm worth something again. I have my hard body back, and I feel I look really good, I get stares and comments when I'm out. What do I do?
View related questions:
divorce, shy Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Reebe  +, writes (5 January 2007):
 Firsty I want to say well done you!
for taking time out and spending time on yourself and on being a mum.
Your ready to meet someone and one day he will come along.
Try asking a friend to go out with you for a couple of drinks maye once a week if you can, or join some clubs in your area or maybe a dating agency.
It is never easy to get back out there and date especially after sometime and you say your shy but the other person will be nervous and shy too.
Try just smiling at someone you like and see how they respond, the more you do it the easier it will become.
You meet people in the most unlikely places! Keep smiling and keep the faith!
Good Luck!
A
reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2007): Have you tried dating agencies? I did and it worked for me. Firstly, join with an open mind. Look on it as a night out. You are not out to meet your dream man or soul mate. Just see it as a social event. I met loads of rubbish, but it was fun. You don't have to see them again. But make sure you never tell them your address. Meet somewhere, say 5 miles plus from where you live. Meet in an open place, say inside a pub with loads of other people around. Be careful walking back to the car or book a taxi. Make sure you are not followed, if you are then drive straight to the police station. Always be careful and aware. Not everyone is bad. I'm still with my bloke and we plan to get married this April. So best of luck and get out there.
Best Wishes
xx
...............................
A
male
reader, eddie  +, writes (5 January 2007):
 I'm here to tell you that if you get out there and mingle with people, you'll get a date. No problem at all. I'd suggest not jumping into bed though as you might end up getting the kind of men you don't really want.
Join a group or club, go to church, sports etc. There are a million ways. I'm sure the waiting will seem like forever because you really want it but, you've waited this long so be patient.
...............................
A
female
reader, Lilly223  +, writes (5 January 2007):
 First keep trying the internet thing... don't settle for some loser who you wouldn't even consider any other time, but keep an open mind. Try to approach the selection process by thinking "No, he may not be long term relationship material just by reading his profile, but I bet there is more to this guy than the profile covers. I wonder what I can learn about and FROM him. Spending a couple of hours at a dinner is a short priod of time." Yep, sometimes you meet some REAL toads, and if they are toads, you don't need to go out with them again. A date is not a commitment, it is an interview.
As you probably already know, bars are not a great place to meet a quality guy, especially at our age. If they are in a bar, there is probably a very good reason why they have no where else to go. Avoid bar guys if at all possible.
Now you say... I know all this... and it's still not working. Keep trying, talk to your friends, tell them you are availible and would like to get back in the social scene.
If you have kids in school, volunteer for some school functions... there are some really HOT (and good quality) guys that also volunteer at school functions for their kids. Volunteer at the local nursing home...good sons always come and visit thier mother's! Get involved in a community project that is a bit more guy related, such as habitate for humanity, or something like that.
Take an evening course at a local college, you'd be surprised who you might meet there. (Yep, even guys our age go to school...particularly evening classes.)
Pick a hobby that you know nothing about that is somewhat guy related... learn how to build birdhouses...gotta have tools, and lumber.... go to the hardware store... what's in hardware stores? Guys that know stuff about tools.
See what I am saying? The more you get out, try new things, meet new people, the more your social circle will expand... the more it expands, the more people you meet, and so on.
Don't give up hope.
...............................
|
