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writes:hey there , i broke up with my bf 4 months ago but i met another guy right after my breakup .this new guy admitted that he loved me in about a week .i hesitated a lot at first but then a friend of mine told me that if i wanted to forget my ex , i should be in a relationship with another guy soon. i actually did think that was the right thing to do although i wasnt over my ex yet .i moved on with this new guy and honestly i loved him back but everytime im alone , i would think of my ex but try to get him out of my head by thinking of my recent lovely guy .i always feel like texting my ex or sending him an email but then i hold myself back and tell myself i'll be cheating on my bf if im to do that .i just wanna know how to get completely over my ex ! please help !
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2009): thank u Artistry ..my current boyfriend is a very good person & im so lucky to have him in my life .but when i broke up with my ex , i was deeply hurt coz i loved him very much & thats why i thought that i would forget him by going out with another. ive had some deeper & stronger love relationships before both of them but i seem to have gotten over them all although my first love was the strongest & the guy i loved can never be compared to anyone else coz he was just amazing .i dont wanna have even an atom of feelings towards my ex ..thats all.
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reader, Artistry +, writes (23 January 2009):
 Hi there, when we have been in relationships, and they don't turn out the way we want, we all have a tendency to want to get over that person. But the truth is, we don't get over them, they are a part of our lives. They are a part of our whole experience in life, and what we need to
do is to consider it that way. We need to see the experience as a growth of sorts, it did not result in what we wanted, but for some good reason, that may have been a good thing. If you let it be a part of what you have been through, and learned from, then it will be less painful, it will go away with less import and your life will move forward. Don't try to get over him, try to see it as life experience among many other experiencs. Time will take it for you. If your current boyfriend is making you
happy being with him, then good, but don't use him as a method of forgetting your ex, be with him because you want to have this experience with him, share his ideas and the good things about him, value his friendship, not just as a tool to forget, but as a nice person to be in your life at this time. Love comes slowly sometimes and grows, other times, for some people, it slaps them in the face, we are different. Because he loves you doesn't make it that you have to say or love him at the same time, if this is the case be honest with him and let him know. Love is also patient and enduring, so if he truly loves you and not just "luvs" you he will understand. So let time take it with the old boyfriend, and with the new, in a while you will think less and less of the ex, keep fighting the urge to text or call him, that stops the process of moving on. You will be fine, you have a lot of life to live. For another prespective, go to www.socyberty.com/writers/quiet+voice.8137, look for the title: "Letting Go: Stop Chasing Ghosts". Enjoy your life but be good to yourself. Take care.
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