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writes: Hey,Well I broke up with my GF about 1 month ago. It was mutual, but we just felt we loved each other, but was not in love with each other. We were dating for neraly 2 yeras...We still see each other regularly, every 1-2 days I guess, still talk and stuff. However latly I feel I am making contact with her first..she doesnt make the effort. She is meant to be my bestfriend, and always there for me. I know this is me being selfish, I shouldnt expect that from her, but latly I have lost all motivation to do anything in my life. This includes going out, doing my studies (i need to maintain a good mark for my course..which is why its worse)I dont know what would make it better, but I just always seem to be thinking what is she doing now, who is she talking to etc. I honestly cant get anything done.I go to study, and I end up doing something else. I know I need to do this, and I want to do this yet I cant do anything. I am happy just staying at home doing nothing while she moves on...How do I get back on track and get these stupid thoughts out of my head...
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 Of course you are not over her. You see her 4 of 5 times a week. You want to be best friends with her but you are eaten up with jealousy. You cant be her friend with those negative emotions coursing through you. You are settling into a fine depression. That is the reason that she is not contacting you. Seeing you as a husk of what you were is painful for her. On top of that she has a new interest now and needs time for him. You need to let her go for you. Not because you are mad but to heal. You need a no contact period. About a year I'd say. You need to grieve and get over her before you can see her.
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