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writes:how do I get an STD test without offending my boyfriend? thing is we have both been unfaithful but in the way I was I couldn't have got anything and I was tested in the beginning of my relationship and nothing bad came back. now I'm really scared cause he slept with two women and he has been inside me after(he hasnt cum in me duno if that matters) and yeah it was foolish but now im really scared incase I've got something terrible I dont have any irritations or anything no lumps or bumps but I need to be sure.
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reader, Artistry  +, writes (22 May 2009):
 Hi there, I will quote a game show title in another way, "Whose Life is it Anyway? My dear, this is your life, your body, and by the way, start thinking about safe sex, AIDS can kill, there is no shot to cure it as yet. Think about your health and your future. JUST GET TO THE DOCTOR'S OFFICE AND LET HIM GUESS WHERE YOU ARE. He does not own you and you need to stand up for yourself, he disrespected you anyway, so now you feel you need to follow his every order, find a guy who will respect you, this one does not. Sorry to be so blunt, you go around once in this life, make the best of it. Learn to be your own best friend. Love yourself. Take care.
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reader, nikki_smith +, writes (22 May 2009):
well if he had somethin it would matter cuz if he put it in then u could have caught somethin... well go to the doctor without him knowing then and hey i'd go A.S.A.P cuz they can catch it real quick they can get rid of it and it can take up to 10 years before u know u have an STD or any signs of one :) i'd go girl
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (22 May 2009):
 Well if your boyfriend always wants to know where you are going and he has cheated on you then he doesnt sound like a great guy to be honest!
If you really cannot make up some beliveable excuse which will explain your whereabouts for an hour then you are going to have to tell him. Just be honest with him - tell him that since he has slept with 2 other woman and now you, that you dont feel safe and you are only looking out for your own health. Tell him that he needs to get one too! It wont be offensive, it is just common sense. And if he takes offense, well he is more of an idiot than he already sounds. He has had unprotected sex with 2 women and doesnt care about you enough to make sure he doesnt pass whatever disease he might have onto you!
You shouldnt give a damn about he feels in this sitation, he didnt give a damn about your health or feelings when he slept with these 2 women and then you, therefore you have no obligations to worry about him.
So what if you both cheated, this is still no excuse to pass a disease onto someone you supposedly care about! I hope for your sake that he doesnt have a STD, but he is a pretty awful person if he is willing to sleep around and not worry what he might be spreading around!
Just do what is right for you - look out for your own health. He has no right to get offended, and if he does well just ignore it because he is being a child. Your health is much more important than his feelings so dont even worry about him in all this!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyou see i would but my problem is i told my mayte whos also my boyfriends mayte that i wana get one done and my boyfriend like always has to know where i am or where im going.
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