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writes:I've been with my girlfriend for over 7 months, an I have cheated on her once with someone I went to college with. I explained why I cheated on her and we got back together but now my girlfriend doesn't trust me at all, It has been 4 months now since I cheated on her. I love her with all my heart and I don't want to lose her again. Want to gain her trust back but I don't know how. any ideas?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks all who relpyed. I will try some of advice that you gave. and chalkie I really do treat her like a queen.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (27 March 2007):
 Trust needs to be EARNED! Because you cheated on her you can't blame her for feeling the way she does. Show her by your actions that she can trust you. Reassure her and tell her how you feel about her. Let her know there's no one like her. Here are some ways to show her you love her more than anyone else -
Leave her notes saying how much you miss her, e.g. "Thought of you today and it made me smile," "can't wait to see you tonight," "5 more hours then we'll be together again," "missing you heaps!" Leave these notes in her shoe, in her pocket, in her purse, on her pillow, anywhere you know she can find them.
Buy a small decorated cardboard box, a sheet of coloured tissue paper, some massage oil and a blank card. Line the box with the tissue paper. Place the massage oil in the box and write the following message on the card: I know a great Masseur. For an appointment ring: (Your Phone Number).
On a special occasion, buy your partner eleven real red roses and one artificial red rose. Place the artificial rose in the center of the bouquet. Attach a card that says: “I will love you until the last rose fades.”
Doing some of the things I mentioned above will let her see that there really isn't any need to be worried, you love her and have no interest in anyone else. Like I said by your ACTIONS she will know... Let me know how it goes.
Eve
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reader, chalkie  +, writes (27 March 2007):
 it very hard to get the trust back when its broken wat u did was horrible and no excuses for it. you need to do alot to get her trust back u need to not go out wit out her for start and jus hope and pray in time shell forgive u it hard but she will come around just explain to her it was a stupid thing to do and reasure her on a daily basis that it is her you want no one elce mate she will come round in time but mate dont do it again if its her you want treat her like a queen
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2007): Trust is a very special thing, and it comes in time. You must keep showing her how special she is to you; Be there for her, be her best friend. Put her first. Before you know it, she will trust you.
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