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female
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36-40,
*t house wife
writes:okay i have been with my kids father for about five years we have two beautiful children together we have known each other for a total of about nine years. he recently confessed that he cheated on me with six other females, okay dont call me crazy but i tried to understand his reasoning and he didnt really have a reason besides the fact that we were having a very stressed relationship n e ways i thought i could forgive him and you know push the thoughts out of my mind so we tried this and i have to be honest he has changed alot he is home more often he is more attentive to me i mean not a 360 but a change is definitely noticed. this was all about six months ago that he confessed since then i have questioned his every movement cursed him out thrown the fact that he cheated on me in his face i mean i have really been a cold bitch its even affecting our sex life i dont like it basically i tell him im tired or i even complain during it. "like can you hurry up" like i said a total bitch, we had a falling out the other day and he basically told me i either forgive him and move on or he's gone he said he is sorry for what he did but that he does not deserve to live in absolute hell, now like i said we have a family and i do love him i have been cheated on b4 by exes and i know when someone is sincere i dont normally stick around when i feel betrayed i want to stick around and give my relationship my all cause i genuinely feel he is done with the whole cheating thing oh and let me clear it up these girls were no one that we knew and no emotions or feelings were involved with them it was just sex once with each girl never saw them or spoke to them again after, im passed the stage of thinking do i want to stay with him , I DO , but my question is how any tips or anyone who can relate please reply
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2009): can you really forgive him?
because up to now you have not. he has cheated six times, he has told you and now you have to make the desicion.
can you let the cheating go? or can you forgive?
its bad enough he has put you in a position of having to make that desicion but whether or not you can forgive is entirely up to you.
its not easy though as you have all these angry thoughts swimming around your head, and i do sympathise.
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female
reader, QuirkLady +, writes (4 August 2009):
 I think it would be good for you to seek some counseling, either together or on your own. You are not over his cheating and it's driving a wedge into your relationship. Now you have to work on forgiving him honestly and truly.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2009): This guy is seems to have turned his life around and realise how much he loves you and wants to make a go of things nobody is saying forget but you have to learn to forgive in order of this marriage to work and love does forgive
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reader, S-Breeze13 +, writes (4 August 2009):
Well it's obvious you aren't over his cheating. You treating him like this isn't going to help the relationship at all. if you want to save your relationship, seek some couples counseling.
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