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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for almost four years. We love each other so much. But I dont really feel a connection with him anymore. This is because its impossible to have a converstation with. Just sitting around and having a converstation is like playing the a two year old. Not going to get much out of them. I know he loves me, I know he's a good person. But I dont want to talk to a brick wall for the rest of my life. I know he's not listening. The only time he really listens is when I'm about to break up with him. Its gotten so bad that I have to "require" half hour a day from him for our relationship, but it still doesnt feel like we are connecting. I dont know what to do because I do love him. But I dont want to be in a relationship with nothing happening either.... Reply to this Question
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reader, asphixiated +, writes (23 August 2010):
Dammit. I swear, every single post I've read has made me cry. I personaly know exact-a-friggin-mente what you mean. I'm going through the exact same situation. I love him, he loves me, stuff in common? ziltch. it sucks massivley. I'm sorry this is happening to you friend, but if I had the guts to do this, I would do it: break up with him for your own good. please, don't waste better opportunities for yourself! and the possibility of your true soul partner! people who go through this like myself bring tears to my eyes..i hope this heartfilled comment helps you. I really do wish you the best..love isn't everything, you can love pets, colors, objects, and people, but it doesn't mean that you are in love with someone you know is the best for you. and I'm sure he's thinking the same thing (lol or not, considering boys don't really care too much about this girly stuff haha ~) but even so, don't second-guess yourself. since you are, its clearly an indication there is something worng. my condolences. good luck
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reader, Angelripper  +, writes (23 August 2010):
 Have you asked him about whether he's reciprocating the same emotions you're feeling? That perhaps he too feels that there is a connection lost between you two? Talk to him about it, communication is key in any relationship, and tell him you don't feel as close to him as you did before, and that you feel he is not listening to you. Perhaps he has other troubles on his mind that are distracting him, which makes it seem like he is not listening to you at all. I would really suggest talking about it with him first before making any drastic decisions, and if nothing changes and you still feel that the connection will forever be lost, then break it off with him. No point of having a relationships with an inanimate brick wall, if anything buy yourself some inanimate flowers instead once it's done, they're prettier.
Best of luck to you,
-The Resident Metalhead
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (23 August 2010):
Sorry to answer your question with a question but WHY in the world did you hook up with this guy? I mean, relationships are formed through interactions. How do you get to know eachother without talking? If his company equals the activity of that brick wall, how do you form a loving relationship? That would be like me hanging out with a tree.
Can you explain to me how it got this way? Has he always been like this? What did you see in him?
Sorry, but I honestly need more information before I can give you any kind of advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2010): Why are you even asking this question? He doesn't love you! Apparently he acts like he doesn't care at all, and you're just letting him get away with treating you badly. Go find someone else that you can have a real, adult relationship with.
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