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writes:Hello everyone. My main question is how can I find my motivation. My story is that I have no clue what I'm trying to do with my life. I know I'm only 16 but I know whats right and wrong and everything I'm doing is not good. I'm messing up my future. I have been told a thousand times to do my work and what will happen if I don't and if I do also. I know I want to be something when I grow up but I don't do my work in school. I can still turn things around and get better grades but instead I sit in the class and do nothing. When I was a freshman in high school I ended the year with a 3.0 Which is good because I failed middle school and elementary too. Not because I could not do the work because I chose not to. So I am trying to find my motivation to do good. I want to know why I did well at first and now I'm not. I was not popular or hansom. I did not really have friends. Now I have tons of friends and I think I look better so maybe thats it. I appropriate all posts. I am very grateful for all advise. Have a good night everyone. Reply to this Question
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reader, Nic390 +, writes (17 May 2010):
Nic390 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks a lot everyone!
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reader, The Knight  +, writes (12 May 2010):
At least you've noticed that you have a Brain! First off you'll never realise how important an education is until you start looking for a full time job, this is when your qualifications (or lack of) will come into their own. I'm 19 and I'm currently looking for a job and I have most qualifications except Maths, because of this I can't apply for better jobs with better pay. The recession also makes you have qualifications even more important more than ever before, you have to have the best qualifications you can get so that when a potential employer looks at your CV it's better than the rest. Don't through your life away needlessly, your obviously smart so start studying now.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (12 May 2010):
 Do you want to live a better, happier and more fulfilling life ?
You will need motivation to do that.
Think more positive, develop a more positive outlook and attitude. Take care of your health and be more active in things that are happening around you .
for more;-
http://ezinearticles.com/?How-to-Find-Motivation-in-Life---6-Tips-to-Be-Motivated-and-Live-a-Better-Life&id=3430175
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2010): Hi Nic... I've read all your post and I can relate to that!
In my years of high school I was like you. Found myself in a strange spot in life where there were no reasons to study at all... The real deal is that all of us need a goal in life to be really happy... Happiness is not an objective but the way through life itself.
And may I say, time passes by and people change, for good or for bad... So if you're not seeing a path to go or motivation ahead of you remember time will tell you the right answers...
Sure you can help yourself to see those things...
So why not asking yourself what is happiness to you? And what you think will be happiness to you in the future?
Do you have any dreams for a future? How do you see your life ahead of you? Married with a good family and a loving Wife, great career?
I know it sounds strange and I know dreams change... But they are your motivation...
You need to study because it enriches you as a person you get culture inside of you... Sure it helps passing tests but that is your world now... Try to see your world in the future... And you may find your motivation...
I wanted to be a very talented Advertiser, with an intelligent and loving wife... Three kids, and a good house... Besides I wanted not to live in my dad's back for all my life... So that was my motivation... I started to do good so I could go out with my friends and pay for my own movie ticket... I wanted a bike too, a car later in life... and so on...
That was my motivation...
And about friends... Well let me tell you a thing you may be lucky to know in your age... (I didn't and learned the hard way)
Real friends are those ones that accept you for the way you are and likes you despite the things you like...
If you have friends now because you don't study you can be sure they are not real friends... Later in life you'll thank me...
Don't start doing things just to please people if your valors don't agree with that... I made the mistake of starting smoking to please the group I used to hang out... And although it seams harder... It shows that you have integrity inside of you... Luckily I was smart enough to leave cigars and those false friends before I could enter in a bigger mess...
Trust your family, talk to your parents ask them what they would do (if you have a contact with them)... They lived a lot and maybe they could have one perspective for you...
Hope my words were in some way useful...
Best wishes, and good luck :)
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