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writes:I am 48 years old I never had a girlfriend nor a serious relationship I am not a bad looking guy but I feel very unwelcome when I try taking to women or asking them out I made a fool out of myself Friday I asked out one of the waitress at the company I work for it all started with her being nice and paying attention to me I am confident guy there isn't any problem there but I am not any brad pit nor a George Clooney but I still feel unloved and unwanted what can I do signed the lonelyguy
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2014): Hi
I don't think you made as much a fool of yourself as you think, I expect she was flattered to be asked, we all have a choice to say no, for whatever reason.
Many people your age are looking for love and although I agree dating sights are an option, they can also be a minefield.
Try activities that enhance your social life as well, as the more friendship groups your a part of then the more chance you have to meet new people.
Take small steps and don't expect it to happen overnight. Keep positive and if you stay that way, who knows what the future will bring.
Good Luck x
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (18 February 2014):
 99% of women dont want to date George Clooney or Brad Pitt - I certainly dont, and the man I am marrying looks nothing like either of them! He is a pretty average looking guy, 5"9, brown hair and slightly stocky build. He's attractive but not on a Hollywood scale!
See I think you claim to be confident however if you are comparing yourself with movie stars that shows me you have very low self-esteem and little confidence.
Generally looks are not that important for women, as long as you are ok looking then your looks wont be an issue. Men are much more visually stimulated than women, I saw a statistic the other day about online dating - the majority of women worry about the men being a serial killer, but the men asked in this survey all said their biggest worry is whether the woman is fat. Just shows the difference in male and female attitudes - looks are so much more important to men than women!
From your post it is too hard to say what you are doing wrong - it could be the type of conversation you are having, it could be the type of women you are approaching, it could be you're saying the wrong things, it could be that you are just doing it wrong time wrong place. You have given very little information so we cant really help.
Apart from saying that it is highly unlikely that your looks are to blame for you being single. Try online dating where you can talk to women via messaging and build a connection first before meeting in real life. Talking to women you've never met in somewhere like the workplace can be difficult and the women might not appreciate being approached like that. Whereas on a dating site all the women are there to find love and talk to new people, so they will be more open to you.
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