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male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Here is a description of my current situation. I am 25 year old male with an almost insatiable sex drive and am very experimental/adventurous (for example, I am into BDSM, fetishes, etc). In my past relationships I felt connected to my partner in all ways except sexuality. We'd enjoy the same non-sex related activities, our personalities clicked really well, our families got along fine, and we shared the same groups of friends. Everything always seems to go well in the relationship except for the sex aspect. First off, I haven't found a partner who has the same sex drive as me. I'd do want it at least once(if not multiple times) a day if I could, and I would not get tired of it. Also, to spice things up (instead of doing the same old same old), I like to experiment with new techniques and activities. My previous girlfriends never really had a desire to experiment. They were content with the same old sex that we always had. In the end, these problems led to the ending of my otherwise good relationships.So the question is.. how can I find out if a girl has the same libido, desire to experiment in new things, and same sense of adventure as me? The problem is that sex is an intimate topic. It's not something you bring up on a first date. At the same time, I feel like it is a waste of my time and hers to go a month into a relationship and get emotionally close to each other only to find out that we were incompatible from the start (but didn't know it since it's a topic you don't bring up until later). Is there something to look for in a girl that can clue me in? I've read many questions and answers here to know that there are a lot of women with high libidos and sense of adventure out there. I just don't know how to find them..Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009): Hi, aren't there websites and clubs that you can join, for you to meet like minded females??
Good luck
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (5 April 2009):
They do exist, they just don't come on the internet very much to talk about their problems because they are busy out having fun.
I would advise you to keep dating, and just flirt a lot more earlier on and drop some clues.
Talk about how you didn't get on with your old girlfriend because they never wanted to try anything adventurous... then say "I don't know if you have had similar problems."
Make it about her and get her to talk about if her ex's have had any weird stuff that they didn't like doing. If they are not into the freaky stuff then they will probably love the opportunity to say early on that they will NEVER do X Y or Z.
It's all about being really subtle, and as long as they don't think you are going to pressure them into anything early on (you should probably mention that you never have sex for the first few dates or something so they don't feel like talking is going to give you the wrong idea) then you can get them drunk and talk dirty.
If you don't think they could keep up with you then you know you've found a drinking buddy.
Girls with high sex drives who are willing to experiment generally are quite open about sex, so if she doesn't want to talk about it after a few drinks then that will be a bad sign.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, the_phoenic +, writes (5 April 2009):
get an account on myspace
say all what you want to say on it ,and what your sexual oriantations are,
good luck
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