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writes:I still have some anger and things i left unsaid to my ex. My mom suggested writing a letter. I'm considering writing a facebook message and sending it to him, just to express how I feel so I don't have to bottle the emotions up. Does it seem like a good idea? We were an ldr, so face to face isn't an option. We both agreed that we wern't going to talk for a while any way, but I really don't wnat to hold on to these emotions anymore. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks all. I wrote a letter, but am not going to send it. Found out he's interested in someone who's been his best friend for a while now. He lied to me, left me for another girl and told me in the end he wasn't 100% into me. He said earlier in our relationship he was going to marry me! But after all is said and done, after reading your responses, and thinking, he's not worth my time if he treated me like such crap. It'll make me seem clingy to send him the message, like i havn't let go of it. Thanks all :) I got some burning to do...
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (11 July 2010):
 Agreed, write letter but don't send it.. keep it and put it in a safe place. In 5years time take it down and look at it and see if you feel the same..
Revenge is a dish best served cold. The best revenge is always to live well.. It's more classy to let the man go and keep your pain to yourself.
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reader, Illithid  +, writes (11 July 2010):
 Write the letter, but don't send it. Keep it for a little while, make a second draft, tweak it, but hold onto it. For me at least, that helped me feel like I could send it, like I was ready to send it any time and I got some of it out. But if you actually DO send it to him at this point, it's just making you look clingy, giving him the upper ground, and you're going to feel worse.
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reader, karen1989 +, writes (10 July 2010):
 If you send him a letter or a msg on facebook, hes going to think you still care even if that message is just giving him abuse. Love and hate are two very linked emotions. If you hate somebody thats still holding a strong feeling towards them. You don't want him to think that you feel any kind of strong emotion towards him.
The BEST revenge is to act like you don't care,like you've moved on and you couldnt be happier.
As for getting the things you havent said to him of your chest,have you got a best friend whos good at keeping secrets? if so then tell her/him. Or like caring guy said..write a letter but don't send it,burn it.
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reader, CupidsAnswer +, writes (10 July 2010):
 Hello,
You can't tell him face to face, so why not write a letter? Facebook is not an option. If you used facebook to tell him, your screwed. Try writing a hand-written letter and envelope to his address or a type-written letter and envelope to his address. Or write up all these feelings then burn them. Always ask permission first. Although, it is good to let him know these feelings and see how he responds. Or even phone him then atleast you can hear his voice and it would have an instant response. Just don't make an rational decisions.
CupidsAnswer,
Agony Aunt
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (10 July 2010):
I'm not sure sending him anything would be a good idea. Try writing a letter to him, but instead of sending it, burning it. The relationship between you is over, and the worst thing to do is then send a load of anger over the computer towards him. First, you'll come across as an unstable ex who can't let go, and second this is something that he could well post over the internet in revenge. Also, let's face it, if you're mad with him, do you really think he'll give a damn? No. So why risk losing dignity and such in the face of this ex who has made you so angry. Try writing down how you feel, then burning it. But don't waste time sending him anything. He won't take notice, and you could come off looking bad, especially if he posts it over the internet or something.
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