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writes:For some time now I have been very interested in visiting a Dominatrix.However, before i can even seriously consider this, there are a number of issues to consider first, the one most importantly being having a discussion with my wife and getting her consent to do this.I simply have no idea how I would approach her about this, so this is where I need some friendly advice from you guys please! :O)First of all, I thought you would like to know some information that would help with my situation. First of all, there are a number of connecting issues with this that my wife is fully aware and very understanding of, this includes my fetish for occasional (and not full) cross dressing at home, which in fact has even led to the occasional dressing for her in the bedroom which she is ok with, so long as it isn't too constant! She is also aware that I am very submissive, which again we have occasionally experimented with light bondage with each other in the bedroom. However, the main reason that I am seriously considering visiting a Dominatrix is for one particular fetish I have which also combines all of the above, and that is a scenario involving "strap-on play" THIS is the one desire I have been wanting to "act out" now for as long as I can remember. Again, I have already hinted this to my wife (though this was a long time ago now) and the reaction to this was not so good, almost embarrassing and dismissed straight away, and because of that I decided not to pursue further with her about it out of the sheer embarrassment of the situation! From what I could understand, she appearred to have no desires at all to enact this together, in fact I think she finds that "area" a a bit of a taboo subject! Therefore, this seems to be the only way I can finally see myself living out my fantasies, and more importantly with somebody who has the full knowledge, experience and understanding to make it an incredible and unforgettable experience. However, I love my wife very much and have never been unfaithful and would never want to be, although I do not see this as being particularly unfaithful, as no form of sexual intercourse takes place, having her full consent to do this would mean I could do this and just relax and enjoy the experience that I have been dreaming about for a long time now...Any advice is extremely welcome :O) Thank youKind regardsShane
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2007): Hi,First of all YOU ARE MARRIED that means no going over the boundaries with anyone else how can you be sure sex will not take place you are with another woman to start with and we all know what this can lead to whether you say sex does not take place or not i feel you should not be doing this it is wrong have you no MORALS? Think of your wife what if she came in and says she wanted to go do this with some strange man would you be happy about that and the first thing that would come to your mind being a man would be WHAT IF!!So no forget this it is sick stay within the boundaries of your marriage and spend more time in the bedroom with your wife and forget these foolish fantasies they are for SICKOS.
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reader, Dos_Vinci  +, writes (22 March 2007):
 Have you tried asking her if she'll be your Dominatrix? You could even send her to the girl you wanted for pointers.
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (22 March 2007):
You said it was a long time ago when you mentioned this fantasy to her. Before asking if you can see a dominatrix, i really think you should have a little talk with her about it again. You need to tell her edzactly what you want done to you.You dont know if she may have changed her mind. If she makes it perfectly clear she is not at all interested in shareing it with you, then you have to find the best way possible to bring this dominatrix issue forward. How do you think she will react if you tell her you want to visit a dominatrix. Do you think she will be hurt and upset. Perhaps you can hint about it. Or, maybe...she would rather do it with than you do it with someone else. You also need to be able to give something in return, like a fantasy of hers.
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