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writes:Hi, I need some advice. I am 22 years old and I am Bi-Sexual. Ive been bi since I was 13. It was rele easy to tell my mother and after telling her I have always told ppl the truth about myself. Though my sexuality was confusing to myself. I was bi but yet i hated porn of both sexs, didnt like to see women kissing and stuff like that. I actually dated two females when I was middle and high school and lost my virginity to a female when I was 16. My main attracting was to Butch females but the girls I dated were your everyday female. Now I am 22years old and have a daughter and engaged to a man.Just this year I started getting aroused by lesbian porn, and females alone.I dont undertand my own sexuality or why I was the way I was until now. Its almost like I came out of the closet comepletly or something. How Do i explain to my parents that even though I am with a man I still am bi-sexual ? What does that mean basically..Am I still Bi-Sexual or am I straight?
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reader, Dreamin_my_dream13 +, writes (31 March 2011):
Dreamin_my_dream13 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell see Im attracted and get aroused to both sexes. I very much so get aroused by my fiance as well..I was just questions myself because I had never asked questions for myself and my step mom had asked me questions I didnt know how to answer. My fiance isnt into bringing another woman into the relationship or into watching lesbians play around but im fine with that because I dont want to make him feel uncomfortable. Ive talked to him before and just like my step mom, he is confused as well.
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reader, Dreamin_my_dream13 +, writes (31 March 2011):
Dreamin_my_dream13 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell thats the thing...I do get aroused by both sexs..I am very much so attracted to my fiance but I get just as much aroused by women. Tho my fiance isnt into the whole 3 somes and lesbian action in our relationship which is fine with me because it makes him feel uncomfortable. I was just confused because my step mom had asked me yesterday when I came out to her how i was bi even tho im with a man. I guess I didnt really ask myself these questions when I came out so now Im confused..
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2011): You realise that you technically cannot 'lose your virginity' to a member of the same sex, right?
You lost your virginity the second a penis entered your vagina. No earlier. Elsewise any girl who was ever eaten out by her boyfriend would be considered to have lost her virginity.
That may be my view, but that aside, you do a disservice to ANYONE you date if you lie to them. You are apparently only sexually aroused by women.
Therefore you cannot be sexually aroused by your fiance. This is disrespectful.
If you are not sexually stimulated by your partner, then something is usually missing.
Bisexuals are attracted sexually both to males and females. Not one or the other. Otherwise you would be defined as gay.
It is entirely possible to be gay and married to someone of the opposite sex. Rock Hudson was as bent as a porn stars dick, but he was married.
This is not at all right or honourable. It is wrong to lead a person on. To make them believe you love them. Are sexually attracted to them above all others. Only for it all to be a lie told out of fear or out of complacency. It would be better to break it off and let the other party find someone who can give them what they deserve... namely a person who loves them in every way. Including sexually.
Flynn 24
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