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writes:hello there well my ex broke up with me about a week ago. were been dating for about a year . We were very attracted and had strong feelings for each other . we would miss each other as soon well not see each other or we stop talking anyway... i used to see her 4 days on the weekdays and she would sleep over my place on the weekends till late Sunday night then i would drive her home .at times i would stay a week if her parents were on business trips . and when i wasn't there i would call her for hours before we would go sleep. and she loved that. on the weekends when she was over ,i really never interacted with my mates alot becasue of the fact she was over we would always do our own thing . now that shes gone out of my life things are so different i feel so lonely no one to talk or see . i would feel depressed as she not here anymore. her presences makes me happy if were out or even home i also miss the night cuddles and sleeps together. i also don't feel like going out as well because during my relationship i would always be with her it just doesn't feel right anymore i also try to get out of house regularly maybe a walk or go random places with my brother but my mind is never clear . anywhere i go i think of my past . and also everywhere i go i get vivid memories of me and my ex bad or happy experiences together for example if i walked pass a shoe shop cause we would always drag me in it and ask me if they look good on her or a favorite restaurant we eat it hurts me . i want to get over it but my memories and old routine life are killing me slowly .. how do i over come this ???
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell the reason why she broke up with me was that
1. financially insecure
2. just feel out of love ?? i don't know why
3. thought i did not trust her and was jealous
4. apparently i did not support and respect her views enough .
i know i did stuff up on those points but she told me i treated her like a queen and was very caring etc . when she broke up with me she wouldn't give me a chance and said we should both move on . that really hurt me she wouldn't give me a go to build myself up fix up this relationship . shes wasn't my first gf but the only gf i dated long , loved and thought about the future with . we had a great bond and the feelings were strong . i know this feeling is normal but its starting to control my life put effect on everything .i think she is confused ?? maybe some time but too much time she will get over me ..
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reader, Kama  +, writes (10 June 2010):
 You will never forget it, but time does help. The hurt is very strong now, and in the coming weeks could get worse. But it *will* get better. I made it through a split up with a girl I had been with for years and years, and I thought I might die. It took me a long while, lost weight, didn't eat or sleep, but it went away. It does get better, and you will find another. What you're feeling is normal. It seems in the thick of it that it will never improve, but it does. I promise.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (10 June 2010):
 Its been a week. Allow yourself more time to get over her. Don't think that how you feel is unormal and that you need to change your routine right away. You will get into a new routine slowly, but you need to give it time. Do what you feel comfortable with doing! And heal. But it takes more than a week to recover from the loss of someone you held dear. Not that it is possible to put a time frame on it, but anything from 2 months to 6 months would be concidered an alright amount of time to heal back up. Of course, people are different and some take less time, some use more. So take the time you need!
It is normal to feel sad, it is normal to feel lonely, and the most heartaching of all can often be to think about the good times and miss it terribly. But the relationship ended for a reason, and slowly you will be able to get back on your feet and have a new routine going.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2010): You can erase them ;(
I'm now going through that what you've gone through and I know exactly what you mean. Time heals all wounds. Don't try to forget them, try to be happy that they've happened.
Try to keep yourself busy with other things. Put away all the things she gave you. I know it's hard. My heart is broken too. You'll forget her totally when you fall in love again and even that can't guarantee it. ;(
I'm sorry buddy, life sucks! You just gotta be strong and roll with the punches.
NightFairy
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2010): Hello,
You broke up a week ago, and these feelings you have ae very normal. Break ups take time to heal. You didn't mention why she broke up with you. From your perspective it sounded like a good relationship. Is there any chance of getting back together? If there isn't you need to heal, keep busy, go out, talk to friends etc. Try to avoid rebound relationships as it isn't fair for the new person.
Good luck
;D
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