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writes: Hey people, When you truely know a friendship is over how would you address it..been having problems with my best mate and i know that we are too different and this mate always accuse me off always talking about her..i know i don't make time for her but just its hard when she's not making an effort to.what you guys think i should do?? Reply to this Question
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (29 March 2006):
 You have to ask yourself how much has this person meant to me.
How did we become friends in the first place?
Do we share common interests or do we always argue?
If you can honestly say that you have been a good friend and so has she then you have to ask yourself what has your friendship been like in the past and did it make a difference to you.
If however, you have always been walking on eggshells and you accidentally became friends like I did with someone and then felt used I broke off the communication with them and although I tried to tell them why I needed my space they just did not listen so the friendship did fizzle out in the end.
Depends on if you feel strong enough to comfront this friend and how you will feel afterwards if you hear stuff about yourself that you don't want to hear or like the other writer said write to them or email etc and see if you can express yourself better in that way, or thirdly just continue to cut down on the contact if you don't want the confrontation.
At the end of the day the choice is yours but just be honest with yourself and do what is best for you because if it is making you miserable you need to cut and run.
Good luck.
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reader, bodylotion +, writes (29 March 2006):
 Tell her to her face.You can't keep pretending that you like each other.Tell her and try not to feel to gulity.Or you could ring her,email her or simply leave a letter.But don't leave it any onger as it will get harder and harder.
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reader, Jadzia1127  +, writes (29 March 2006):
 To end a friendship you have a few choices.
-Let it putter out by not answering phone calls, emails, text msg, always being busy if you do run into them.
-Be honest and tell them that your interests are going in opposite directions and you don't think that the friendship is the best thing for the both of you.
-Play mind games. get a pet potato, name it after your friend and one day mash it and serve it to her (LOL ok don't do that)
-Be mean. steal all her left shoes and then seal her door with popcorn (ROFL don't do that one either)
You really have two options let it putter out or be honest to end it quickly.
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