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writes:Does anyone have this re-ocurring feelings and nervousness that they might not actually look the way they appear in picture when they are about to go on a date with someone they met online This is my first date with a wonderful chinese girl i met onlineI always told her how cute she looks and she say the same about meBut my problem is that i feel that i appear more handsome on those pictures,though a lot of people have told me that i am really handsome and i have started working out and delevelop some muscles which my date to be said that she loves muscle men,even before i actually told her that i workout and and send her some pictures which she likeThis self curiousity have actually made me to develop this unconsious behaviour of picking up a mirror and starring at myself, i just dont want to look different from what she saw on the picture or look below her expectation. How do i deal with this feeling of confidence,have someone been throught this same feeling? How did she or him deal with it?I need help out here Note: i feel i have a slightly bigger head that doesn't show in the pictureThough i have a huge built muscle too, but im nervous about this appearance thing...... Thanks
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reader, PeanutButter  +, writes (30 July 2014):
 Honestly, I would stop worrying about how other people see you in photos and in real life and just remember that if they are interested in you, they will love you for who you are no matter what. You can never look fabulous 100% of the time but you CAN adopt a positive attitude. If you lack the confidence the you will be less attractive no matter how physically handsome you might or might not be!
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reader, PeanutButter +, writes (30 July 2014):
Honestly, I would stop worrying about how other people see you in photos and in real life and just remember that if they are interested in you, they will love you for who you are no matter what. You can never look fabulous 100% of the time but you CAN adopt a positive attitude. If you lack the confidence the you will be less attractive no matter how physically handsome you might or might not be!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2014): We are our own worst critics. Something like a slightly big head isn't going to be a turn off. However, no confidence in yourself will be.
I have the opposite problem as you. I'm attractive in person, but look HORRIBLE in photos. If someone online were to not talk to me based on a bad photo, I'd say they probably aren't worth my time, anyway. This girl isn't likely to notice your "big head", and if she does and judges you for it, then it's her loss. For every woman who isn't attracted to you, there will be one who is. Also, you haven't seen her either. So what if she doesn't look how you expect? It can work both ways.
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