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writes:On August 26th I had an Abortion. I am only fifteen years old, and the guy I was with, is only sixteen. We are broken up now.I had an Abortion for numerous reasons. The fact that I could never be able to support it fiancially, and my ex boyfriend was a drug addict and a criminal. I was going to keep the baby, but at the last minute I changed my mind and I could of never gave it up for Adoption, even though I know that is selfish.Truth be told, sometimes I regret it, other times I don't. I don't regret it when I can still go out and sleep in, and live my life and I regret it, when I see other teenage girls keeping there babies and are perfectly happy with it.I have a new boyfriend now, so I don't really like to dicuss how I feel with him, because I think it would make him uncomfortable. But I feel like it just haunts me all the time and it poisons me. I could just go for days thinking about it, regretting it, wishing for it. Some days I just wish I could get pregnant again to make up for it. I know I punish myself for it. I would of been 16 weeks and 4 days pregnant today and I still look at the 3D Pregnancy Calender to see what my baby would've looked like. I seriously need help, guidance and strength. I don't really talk to anybody about it because I don't think anybody can really relate to how I feel. I have a couple friends who have had Abortions, but aren't much effected, but I feel like I can't let it go..
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reader, loriilene7  +, writes (28 October 2009):
hi there, first and foremost you have to remember you made a mistake in not using b-control. make sure you do from now on or you could make the same mistake which you do not want to put yourself through again do you? someday you'll have a baby when your older and more prepared not when your a kid yourself. i had a baby at 16 and was going to give him up for adoption but got talked out of it and my own mother never ever helped me one ounce. it was too hard for me cause i had a mother who abandoned me when i was ten or twelve months and came back when i was five or six and she's never even discussed it with me. just love yourself and care about yourself+realize you made amistake, don't look at baby calendars. its just a big mistake its not a mistake when you learn from it. good luck...
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (22 October 2009):
I'm sorry you found yourself in this position. The only real way to start getting over it is to receive proffessional counselling. As the other posts say, there will be help available for this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2009): You did the right thing. You are far too young and you would have had no support from your ex. Im not saying this for religious reasons, but really if you are going to have kids you should be married first.You will need support not only from your partner but from your family, also if you havent lived your life you will always wonder what if... Im sorry you feel so sad now, but sometimes we have to make the hard decisions. In time you will see that you were right
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2009): First of all, my sympathies... You sound had a traumatic experience. I don't think you need to confuse this with regret by looking at other girls your age - you did what was best in your circumstances. And you are not sitting in those girls' homes and finding out how happy or unhappy they are. You need to stop wallowing. Grief has its own time. And its good to give yourself a break and treat yourself when you are grieving. Then you need to move on. Maybe you can make up by doing something for some children in need. In a shelter or somewhere. Maybe you can share your experience with other girls your age who may be having unsafe sex with moronic boyfriends... In healing others you'd feel like it was not all a waste. Prayer works for some. Charity works for others. And it shall pass. Try it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2009): You will find that counselling helps. There are lots of agencies who will provide free post-abortion counselling. Google "abortion counselling" with the name of your city/town. You aren't alone, by any means, and there are people who want to help you.
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