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writes:This week so far my mum tried to kill herself by taking an overdose and crashing into a tree, and is now in a mental institution.I had a massive fight with my dadA good friend had an accident and is now in a coma.I crashed my car (I'm not hurt though just damaged the car and property)I told my boyfriend (of 4 months) I loved him and he did not say it back. After everything that had happened I had a 'life is short' mentality and thought just go for it becuase it felt right.The thing is I think I'm ready to snap. I dont know what to do about my mum the damage to the car my relationship with my dad or my boyfriend.I feel out of control and stressed to the max and just so sad. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2008): that sounds like hell, i know exactly how you feel about your mum and dad. I know it must be so hard, i been in similiar situation and after all that i used to think whats the point, and the easiest option was to give up and stop talkin to everyone to stay away from it all. You cant though, coz it don't help. Your boyfriend does love you, otherwise he wouldn't be with you, go ask him yourself, if he says he doesn't love you come back and i'll shoot myself.
About your friend, you cant do much, just pray give her family support, go see her often, if it gets critical make sure you get to say anythin you want to say to her although she may not respond it'll make you feel better.
Your dad, there is no point arguin. If it was about the relation between your mum and dad, ye i been there argued my head off got no where. If you think with a cool head arguing causes more stress, keep it cool try to resolve it and remain calm please.
And your mum, you got to help her. You cant just let her go to that mental place. Whatever you do just take her out, look after her. She won't heal in few days weeks or months. Took my mum over 2years to get over depression and now she thanks me everyday for supporting her. Coz i was the only one there for her at the time.
Please don't stress, ok stupid thing to say but it always get better in the end and people are thankful.
Your goin through very very difficult times and trust me, just trust me you will see good times come soon.
I've just done a little prayer for you, that will help you alot, i promise everything will work out soon, your being tested as a human, as a person so keep those who are close to you very close. In stress don't take it out on your boyfriend or anyone just relax.
Get your car fixed, tell your bf to fix it for you, or help you with it.
Write all your thoughts down on paper, that will really lighten your head. Than organise those thoughts on another paper. Write things you need to do. Write down all feelings, i sometimes write poems with my feelings in them. You'd be suprised with how powerful the words become when you read it back as it all comes out and into the poem.
Just relax. I dunno what else to say. At a young age i've also seen many crazy things includin deaths, and my mum on the verge of dead, suicide before my very eyes. I can never forget.
Before i go do let me know how things are and also i'm 18, if i can deal with these problems at a young age than so can you! Good luck....my heart goes out to you....remember your bein tested...stay strong...!
Oh ye did i mention stay strong....i think my prayer is already having its effect...
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (16 December 2008):
 You feel sad and stressed with good reason. I know that you have to deal with all these problems at the same time, but that does not mean you can't sit to analyze them one by one, to choose what best to do about each one.
The car and the property are important, but they are material things. With work and time, you will replace them.
Your mother tried to commit suicide. You need to wait for her to recover, and you need to ask the doctor what you can expect and how to help her.
I'm sorry to hear about your friend. Be there for him/her or the family, and pray for the best.
You told your boyfriend that you loved him because at that particular moment you needed someone to support you. Maybe he understands that, but is getting to know you, and that is why he didn't say he loved you. Give him some time, which you can use to think what you feel, and ask the question again if you think you need to. If he doesn't say it back, again, leave him, and find another guy who will.
I don't know why you had a fight with your Dad. Sit down and think how you can solve it.
Hope this helps.
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