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writes: I have a really big problem along time ago when i was 14 i did a sexual act with my third cousin i regret it so much i not attracted to him at all this mistake i made was because he harrased me until l gave in now im 20years old im still a virgin ive never had a boyfriend or even kissed a boy i feel so ashamed to make matters worse i live with him because his parents adopted me and he harasses me about it im so miserble my sister is the only one who knows she is helpful she knows it was a mistake and does not judge me i dont ever want to get married because i dont want to tell anybody my parents will hate me i cant tell them because i have nowhere else tl,o live i need some major advice
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (28 May 2011):
 You were young and you made a mistake. If you're going to get married, you want to marry the right man and the right man is someone who loves you. If someone loves you, they will not judge you, nor will they see you as anything less. There are worse things, much much worse things. You aren't as impure as you make yourself out to be.It isn't really necessary to tell anyone, after all, it was a long time ago. Ignore whatever he says and don't let him touch you again. Soon you can forget all about it. Don't be so afraid of your mistakes, its over. Don't let it stop you from getting married or being in a relationship with someone. When you fall in love, youthful mistakes aren't going to make them hate you or think less of you. Your Sister doesn't hate you or think you less than her sister, she knows it was a mistake and nothing more.I hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2011): you shouldnt let this get in the way of having a relationship. It wasn't your fault :I
I think its time to come to peace wih yourself and move on ,I know its hard but I'm sure wih the support of your sister you can do it c:
...plus noone else has to know anyways !
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