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female
age
41-50,
*illy bilou
writes:Hello,First of all, I express my warm greetings to all of you. I find this site a great place for advice, sharing and discussion. Well, I have a question about the attitude of my father. I have three sisters, two big sisters amd one small sister. During my childhood and till now, I have always felt that my father preferred my big sister over the others. I still remember that he always used to praise her a lot in front of our relatives. Also, my father used to give my little sister and I, their toys and other things and buy new ones for them. For instance, my father bought new bicycles for my big sisters and gave us their bicycles. It's the same thing with their working tables, m father bought new ones for them and gave their already damaged and used up tables to me and my little sister. Moreover, I have never been in good terms with my big sisters and to be honest I have broken all ties with my biggest sister. She has offended and mocked me too much. Unfortunately, in my adolescent years, I developed scoliois which gave me a hump on my back which was corrected later with surgery. She used to laugh at me and called me deformed body. I will never forget all the harm she caused to me when she treated me like this. Yet, my father once told me that he finds that she has a kind heart. How can a person with a kind heart lack compassion for her own sister's condition? My father always compared us and he has always reached to the same conclusion that my big sister is better than all of us.Recently he has even told me that if her prefers one of his daughters over these others, I should try to compare me with her and learn from her. I think that if my father wanter to be fair to all his daughters, he should have said that we all have to learn from each other. Anyway, I have nothing to learn from such a wicked being as my sister. So I would love to have your ideas on the attitude of my father. Reply to this Question
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reader, Faraday  +, writes (4 January 2010):
 Oh, I feel for you. I've been there and it hurts. Badly.In my case it was my younger brother who had the golden balls, but the outcome is the same: a miserable childhood and ages to recover from the hurt.All you can do is break away from it all and excel at what you do; that'll show 'em!
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