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*aven37
writes:Hi I need some advise on how to cope and deal with my childish husband. Ill try keep it brief and give a few examples, Over the past few days we have had to make 2 journeys, 1 on Friday should of took 40 mins but ended up being an hour and half and yesterday the same thing. This happens nearly every time we are in the car. The thing is my husband does not know where he is going half the time, or thinks he does so he drives all over the place to get to a destination. Now I know this is a man thing and men in general don't like to admit they don't know where they are going but when I point this out to my husband he gets very very defensive and threatens me with all sorts, that he will never drive me any where again I'm 7 weeks pregnant and said even when when im 9 months he wont drive me. I told him I will drive myself from now on and he wont be getting the car. He then told me he would stop giving me money for bills etc. At this stage with hormones raging through me I am very distressed, I had been in the emergency room on the Friday with bleeding and cramps. That night I had cramps again and light spotting. My husband looked this up on the net and told me it could be an implantation bleed and that is what the pains where. This was very frustrating to me as I have already had 2 children, 13 and 19 from a previous relationship. I explained calmly to him that it couldn't be that as implantation had happened weeks ago. He then again got into a huff and gave me the silent treatment and stated that I am always correcting him, My husband always has to be right and the best at everything he can not handle anyone giving him advise or correcting him. This happens every other day i'm so tired of it, and worn out I usually humour him and massage his ego but lately I haven't the patients. Its like a child who doesn't get there own way picks up there ball and wont play and goes home. He makes terrible threats and has in the past got his family involved out of temper and subsequently turned them totally against me. He packs his bags and leaves and tried to even cancel our wedding 7 weeks before it was due to happen. What do I do? Egnore him being wrong and agree with him for peace sake or challenge him when he is wrong and get accused of having an opinion on everything he says?
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reader, raven37 +, writes (3 April 2012):
raven37 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi Thank you so much for your reply. My husband sees a counsellor every week and he advised us to do an exercise called the visit, it consists of me telling him what i have problems with. Then my husband has to put himself in my shoes and relay back to me how this must feel. I think the penny dropped when he realised by him been perfect and the best at everything, had left nothing for me to be good at or contribute as an adult in our relationship. I also expressed that his childish behaviour and temper tantrums was having a huge impact on me and if it continued there would be nothing left to love. I know the first poster asked why I married him in the first place, the thing is hes very good in other ways and a great father to my 2 kids and good provider, its just times like this he flips and becomes a different person. I hope he has turned a corner and can maybe things will get better.
Thank you again x
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reader, Wisdom  +, writes (3 April 2012):
 He makes threats and things? Has gotten his family involved out of a temper? Packs his bags and leaves??? Honey you are better off without this man in your life. Nothing really left to say. Its not like he is ever going to change.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2012): he is not going to change this late in the day & its a pity you are pregnant and that you married him if he irritates you so much but you did sooo
i would have said its the pressure of your pregnancy but as he is always like it then its not the reason. you know yourself that having a baby should be a close & happy time for you both something to look forward to together
As your stressed overtired & have raging hormones so are more sensitive to his ways just give things time to settle & explain to him how you feel & that you need his support during the pregnancy Get him to spoil you let you put your feet up
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